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writes:I am coming home from Europe after being away for over four months. My bf of three years and I have tried to stay in touch through emails and phone as much as possible, but it has been difficult as I travel around a lot and am very busy. He is in a high pressure major back home, but a lot of the time when he calls he is short with me and says he has so much work and is so exhausted all the time. His emails are full of I love yous but they are always so short and he always says hes too tired to write very much. He does have trouble getting it together and does not handle pressure of this kind that well, but I am tired of feeling like its all about him. I love him so much and can't wait to come home to him, but I am afraid it is not going to work. Do you think he is just having a hard time as he says he is and that he is so exhausted or has he just lost interest or maybe he is involved somewhere else? I don't know what to think and I do trust him, but it seems so strange that he would be mean on the phone or not write much. Could he maybe not love me as much even though he says he does???? Sometimes it seems like hes really pissed that I went away and is making me pay!
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reader, ChiRaven + ♥, writes (11 April 2007):
 It sounds like the two of you have barely had time for one another in recent months. I can understand how he could be short with you ... I used to work those 60 hour weeks (plus the commute adding another two to three hours daily). I was too tired to say much of anything to my wife, and she was right next to me in bed ... once she got home from her OWN commute.
But you're headed home now, so you'll soon know for sure. Just go on the assumption (for now) that your guy is just overworked. Why borrow trouble? What are you going to do differently if you assumed (or even knew) that he was really PO'd with you? Probably nothing until you got home. So just relax and let your mind be at ease until you see him. Then if there are issues you can work them out with him face to face.
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