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writes:"Nice guys always finish last" This is true in this modern society "Nice Guys" always finish last especially with women. If you're a man reading this (and I hope you are..) you realize this to be true. If you felt that statement was too far fetched or too "mean" than let me ask you these questions, "do you even have a woman?" "has being Mr. NICE GUY helped you get women to be your lover or 'just friends'?" "are you able to have woman pick up on you rather than you pick up on them?" The answer is probably, "no." It's okay though this article is directed towards Men (or boys who want to become men) who want to know how to get a woman. I advise this will only work if you actually put these to work. In the beginning if it doesn't work don't freak out or send me letter bombs saying, "IT DOESN'T WORK". In the beginning of anything you'll suck. Period. I'm a guitarist and I didn't get good overnight. To some I did, but they didn't see the time invested practicing. Overtime everything eventually became automatic, but in the beginning it was a struggle. I guarantee if you take these points to heart they will have faster effect because the more you do something the easier it gets. Now lets move on. "I want a nice guy. I want someone who treats me right. Someone who shares a lot in common," This something you would generally hear from a woman. I want to say that she may be saying it but is she actually doing it? There is a difference. Actually a world of difference. It isn't uncommon to see her going for the guy that ISN'T a nice guy and DOESN'T treat her right, and HARDLY has anything in common with. Now... What is it that makes a woman go for the jerk and go for guy who doesn't really give a !#$%?? Read on...Lets take an attractive women she walks in and every guy looks at her as a piece of meat and worships her. Then there's the guy that doesn't and the pursuer that once was eye candy is now looking at the guy who wasn't really turned on by her. Why? Simple. Because he didn't want to pursue her so she felt she had to change him, to feel accepted, to feel an attraction with him. Another example would be a guy who's got hurt in a previous relationship. He wants nothing to do with women period because he linked pain to being in a relationship even if it was the one previous. So he develops a bitterness towards woman and develops a jerk-like attitude. It's typical of a woman to think she can be the one to change this guy.. but in the end, ends up reaping the whirlwind. Did the guy mean to attract her? No, but because he didn't show interest in her she was drawn to him like a moth to the flame. I'm not saying mimic the jerk, I'm saying to do what the jerk doesn't know what he's doing and that is, "be naturally hard to get".How Does a guy become naturally hard to get? Well here's one thing I tell alot of guys. Women don't like clingy Men (I should say, "boys") to be there all the time, calling all the time, texting all the time, instant messaging all the time etc. Woman hate this unless their clingy woman this is simple to understand. Bottom-line, a Woman wants a Man. You can fool a Woman into thinking you're a Man by being a jerk but it'll get old and she'll move on to the next best thing. Your best bet is not the easy way out but the Manly way out. How???Be productive throughout the day. Don't waste time. Work, Read Books, If you are addicted to T.V. Go on Youtube.com right now and enter, "Cure for Mind Control" and watch it everyday until it becomes a conviction for you not to watch T.V.. Woman want men to have: goals, passions, ambitions, hobbies, Likes and Dislikes etc.. As I said before, "Women don't like clingy Men...unless their clingy woman" in that case they'd be, "girls" rather than woman, and "boys" rather than men. Point is to do something you enjoy besides having her be #1. Even if you're married she still wouldn't be number 1! When I get married she's not going to be #1 and i'd tell her that straight to her face because its the truth.. Guys got it backwards and guess what?... THEY KEEP GOING BACK to square one asking, "why?" " WOE IS ME!!" My advice, "SHUT UP" and, "MOVE ON." I've moved on and when I did, guess who started calling me? messaging me? asking what I was doing? saying, "you went out with somebody?," "WHO IS SHE!?" thats right..my EX. You can't spell "NEXT" without "EX." I will be writing other articles in the near future ONLY if I get good reviews.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question"You say that women like men with goals. So? Can a man with goals not be nice? Are you sure you are not confusing loser with nice?" - Lazy Guy
Lazy Guy, YOU'VE confused what I meant by being "Nice." What I mean by "Nice" is a push over. Guys with the mindset, "If I get more in touch with my feminine side I might get her!.. and If I agree with her and her go on her about problems she'll see me as a 'nice guy' and would want to go out with me..." Thats what I meant.
I won't lie to you, being a "Bad boy" aka "a Jackass" will get you the girl.., BUT if you actually read the article I said, "You can fool a Woman into thinking you're a Man by being a jerk but it'll get old and she'll move on to the next best thing." Didn't you mention the bad boy in the fraiser episode having no one in the end? Yep. True in real life too. My next article will clear more things up.
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reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (20 May 2008):
 There is a cheers episode in which the wive of Frazier writes a book "Nice girls bad boys" or something like that.
Frazier is the nice guy, Sam the bad boy and all the women are all over Sam. Well, yes, it is TV (although in the final episode Sam does end up alone)
What however is interesting is that is NICE girls who are attracted to bad boys, could this because nobody likes to think of themselves as bad?
Could the real truth be that BAD girls go for bad boys? If the girls you go for go for bad boys, are they really bad girls? What then does that make you?
You say that women like men with goals. So? Can a man with goals not be nice? Are you sure you are not confusing loser with nice?
I found my own solution to the "nice guy" problem and it wasn't by changing myself but by finding the right woman. Oh okay, she found me but she is a nice girl and she went for a nice guy and not after first going through dozens of bad boys either. We both took our time and found each other. Nice guy and Nice girl finished together!
If you want to fix it, first of all, stop confusing Nice with loser and change the types of woman you go after. There are plenty of nice girls out there who want nothing to do with bad boys.
The rest of you "advice" just seems to be "do not be a clingy whiner who drowns her in insecurity". But that doesn't mean stop being nice. Maybe one day you will figure this out.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 May 2008):
 So young, so bitter, so jaded....so sad.
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Hi, here's a woman's review:
You've given some very helpful points. I was just saying the other day that every relationship needs a little drama to keep us interested! Also, when I met my husband, he was the only man in the room who wasn't trying to chat me up, in spite of him being the first man I met that evening. But rather than being uninterested, he was just a little shy! When I suggested we ditched the crowd, he took me for a walk and a coffee, so we could talk and he was very witty, clever and funny! He never suggested he fancied me, so I suggested we exchange numbers (which I had never done before!) and I called him!
What made me fall in love was his intelligence, passion and reliability. It was knowing I was his number one that made me say "yes".
The way you then keep the spice is by having fun together. For instance, we go to gigs every summer and take short holidays whenever we can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): i must say to an extent you are right humans in general are drawn to what they cant have...however i have lived my 18 years of life as a "nice guy"and i wouldnt be anything else..for if i were it wouldnt be really me..that would mean that the girl i like wouldnt be falling for me she would be falling for a personification that im letting on...i'll be honest iv never been in a relationship and cant even begin to tell you how hard it is being the "nice guy"however i wouldnt trade it for the world because if being bitter and a jerk would get me farther in life...i'd rather stay right were im at then sacrifice my integerity and become something im not.
overall however it is a good article mostly for those types who agree with it and those who simply want to "score"with women...as for me im going to keep being who i am and hope that someone will love me for who i am a nice guy that will love her and treat her right...and to me she would always be my number one.
-michael
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (13 May 2008):
 Anonymous, I like your article. But you can't expect anyone to give you "good reviews". If you get bad reviews, well, so be it. You need to base your opinions, as much as your articles, on what you honestly perceive as true. Let other people have their own opinion.
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