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writes:I feel so stupid posting on here. But, I am so distraught. I know that no one can really say one thing to make me feel better but I need a helping hand. I am going to see a counselor, too. But, I am falling. I had a break up a couple of months ago. I am not doing well at all. I talked to him the other night. He said that he missed me but didn't want to talk to me to cause me anymore pain. The thing is we have the same friends so I have to see him around. Also, it hurts cause I hear people always talking about how gorgeous he is. It is just something about him. So, I know that he will move on quicker than me. Plus, it hurts cause now he seems to have gotten on an ego trip. And, thats not like him. I want to move away but I know I can't and thats not the answer. I have never had this hard a time getting over someone. I don't understand why I can't. I go out with friends and do all kinds of things. But, I am completely miserable. He really loved me at one time. Then everyone says that he got scared and said that he didn't see a future with me. At first, he talked of just needing time. But, now he says that he can't see himself taking me with him when he moves home in a few years. How hurtful. Cause, at one time he said that he would never move back until he could take me with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2007): i went through the exact same thing. seeing him doesn't help. you're going to have to totally distance yourself from him. sometimes guys can be real idiots. you'll have to put on a smile and walk tall as if he doesn't even exist. do you know why? well...it's because he's already changed and has put you out of sight and mind. I promise you...the minute he sees you not fretting over him...he's gonna call, text, or say in person how he's missing you and the time y'all spent. DON'T FALL FOR IT! My ex did the same thing...said the words I'd been wanting to hear him say after our long drawn out back and forth sexual relationship after we were finished. You can do better girl. Look, who is he to say that he doesn't see a future with you? Listen, don't let another human being have that much control of your emotions that you're feeling down. It's natural to feel down about it because you were in love and now that love has been lost. You're gonna grieve...but don't let him see you cry or give a damn when you see him. You say he's a nice looking dude right? Well, you can find another nice looking dude worth your time. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and guys come a dime a dozen. Get pretty and stay away from places where he'll be if it's bothering you...until you get over him and his ignorance 100%. It's his lost...not yours. Men move on more quickly 'cause there's so many desperate women waiting to pick up somebody elses leftovers and be the new easygoing chic. He'll miss what was real...he's fronting and trying to get to you. Have a good time, don't answer if he calls or texts you. If you see him when you're out....act like you don't see him...watch him die for your attention. Good luck ma. ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): Going through the same thing. I moved state for my bf and after two years he tells me hes moving away whether I come or not is up to me but hes not ready for anything to serious and emotionally dependent since we are in our late twenties (which he says is way too young)I felt like I was going to die, couldnt sleep, throwing up, etc. Everytime we talk about it we cry alot and there's just so much pain there, it even affected my job and physical health. I dont have any advice but sometimes it helps to know that there are probably thousands of people going through the same thing right now.
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reader, electronica +, writes (26 January 2007):
 I think it would help you maybe a little bit to know that you're not the only one having a hard time passing through a break-up!
And I know it's double times harder because you have common friends, so that means you would have to see him all the time. But relax, when you start a new relationship, it will help you get over him.
Good luck dear,
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reader, lozzie683  +, writes (25 January 2007):
I'm going through the exact same thing, but the funny thing with me, is that I'm now living with him, and were not together, and how he's acting funny with me and it hurts like hell. try and keep yourself busy, it'll get better slowly but surly. everyone has their faults, you'll find someone else who will make you feel better.
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