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Chamiltonf
writes:Last night, Sunday, I went on a bruiser of a first date and ended up hitting it off with the bartender much more so than my date. The joint was almost empty so we were all able to make good conversation about music, movies, books, school, the works. Needless to say,we even stayed until last call because it was such an enjoyable time. I left the bartender my number, to which he texted me at 3 am that evening: Bartender: Thank you. Moi: Youre very welcome. Bartender: Youre very cute and should be fast asleep at this late hour. How about a drink with me sometime?Moi: I'd love to, as long as its over a McMannis (a kind of wine we both love)and now...I wait. How long do i wait before I contact HIM? Is he just trying to retain an attractive customer? Ayeayeaye Help!
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reader, Chamiltonf +, writes (2 April 2008):
Chamiltonf is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies, but I got antsy and text messaged him ("I have a proposition for you, and it doesnt involve harvesting your organs or starting a boy band. I swear.") and haven't heard back...so it looks like he wasnt all that interested. Or he doesnt appreciate my humor. Too bad for him!
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reader, phiatiger  +, writes (1 April 2008):
If I were you I would wait for him to contact you, he knows you are interested and he obviously is...so just wait, you dont want to look like you have nothing better to do.
Also, be wary that he does not pick up all and every attractive lass that enters the bar. Keep your eyes open. x
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (1 April 2008):
 He already knows you are willing to go out with him...you gave him the green light. The ball is in his court now and I would keep busy in the meantime. If it were me, I wouldn't call because you have already said "I'd love to" which is positive and encouraging, and you even suggested what you would like to do "drink wine" which is assertive and encouraging (he doesn't have to wonder what to do on your date) and to call him up after this is doing all the work. If he really likes you, he will be willing to expend some effort. At the most, if you don't hear from him for a couple of weeks, stop by the bar with some friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I believe 3 days is the rule for dates. Not sure about text messages.
Why would a bartender try to retain a customer in this way? The loss of one customer is not gonna bring his business down. It is obvious you two hit it off and he wants to persue the matter.
Where this goes now is up to you. You either call him or don't. I don't see you having anything to lose or fear from having a few dates with the guy, a few drinks, maybe a dinner and movie. Throw some dancing and picnics in there for good measure and you got a nice little romance that potentially awaits you.
Give him a call, organise a date and take it from there. Thats all you can do.
If it fails, then you're only in the same spot you are now, no big loss.
Flynn 24
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