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writes:My girlfriend of 3years has just started taking the Depo shot for birth control a couple months ago, and ever since then app closeness and intamacy is gone, literally!.....every time I put my arm around her she shrugs it off, or when I just place my hand on her thigh. And our sex life went from 1-2 times a day, to 1 a week (if that). I've told her that a friend of mine's GF went on the same shot and she HATED him touching her and I've told her that I feel like she needs to change birth control methods for that reason, and she says no because she likes the shot.What do I do? Our non existing sex life and my inability to get physically close to her is ruining our relationship yet she won't do anything to help?
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (14 June 2012):
 I would talk with her about it. She may need to go on some other form of birth control as some of them can make you depressed and make you put on weight. When I was on the pill I gained 10 pounds eating what I normally ate and was always extremely tired. Different hormones can do different things to different people.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 June 2012):
 Definitely sounds like the shot. Hormones affect different women differently and a low sex drive is one of the top side effects women report. I think you should sit down and let her know this is effecting you and you'd really appreciate her trying another method, like nuvaring, an IUD, or an implant. There are tons of other methods out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2012): I have also recently started the depo shot, (2 injections so far) The shot does lower libido, but if your girlfriend will give you a chance of giving a little extra foreplay,the desire will come back. My sex life is better than ever because I do not worry about pregnancy at all. Be understanding of the hormone change and communicate to her that intimacy is important to you and ask for that chance to get her in the mood again.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (13 June 2012):
 I would say that definitely has to do with the hormones in the shot because that is the only thing that has changed. Tell her that you have noticed the change and want to work together to find a solution before it becomes a problem. Other then that then it does become a serious problem that can end a relationship.
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