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writes:i just recently moved in with my boyfriend. we've known each other for about 10 months and i've been unfaithful to him in the past but i still feel like he's holding on to everything that has happened. i thought us moving in together was the beginning of a fresh start. the reason i state this is because i think that may have something to do with him not being affectionate towards me but he was affectionate before we moved. since we've moved it's been a drastic change and i'm trying to figure out why?
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (17 April 2007):
guys to tend to want their own space and are used to being their own man at home, you may not see it but being under someones toes is a big change.
on top of that he has probably still got thought of your unfaithfullness in his mind, dont be fooled, cheating is very rarely forgotten as its a deep pain. it eats away at you because you question so much about yourself and why it was done to you.
you really need to talk this through because it sounds like hes dwelling on your lies and thats not healthy for him or for your relationship
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (17 April 2007):
 I was the same when moving in the my ex. It was frightening in a way, the reality sunk in. This is not a bad thing, but where before you have the space, now you are living together.
It may be your past which is preventing him, but I would ask him this sooner rather than later.
There are so many pro to living with your partner, that he may not see at this time. So point these out, let him know all the possibilities!!
If he is hung up about the past let him know that your commitment to the relationship is 100% and that you would'nt be living with him otherwise. He has to feel secure with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): Well guys r often like that I've had guys who have changed drastically as well!He probably isn't ready 2 get that serious yet,my best word of advice is "Don't rush him."If you have been unfaithful 2 him in the past then he may want 2 stay together wiv u but he can't help but think about all the unfaithful things u have done!Don't be worried by this it just means he's finding it hard 2 let go!But believe me everything will b back 2 normal soon!
Private email me 2 tell me how u got on!
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