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writes:I don't know if I'm being selfish or not or if my parents are being assholes but I am 22 years old and I buy my own food because I am a diabetic, and can't have any of the food they provide so I buy my own. My wage isn't that great, I just have enough to save atleast $100 a week with a very strict grocery shopping budget. I had asked them when I was a teenager to buy me food appropriate for a diabetic but they could not afford it themselves. So I got myself a part-time job to sustain myself.Now this is where it gets so fking stupid! They know I cannot eat their food, my insulin levels will hit the roof if I consume their food but for some reason they think its okay to eat the food I buy for myself?! I don't touch their food because they get so over-protective of it and I can tell they get annoyed even with me just simply using their peanut butter (I bought my own now and they even eat that too!!). I've literally had enough of this childish behavior! They should know I buy my food because of my diabetes, and its only for ME to eat because I simply cannot afford to buy food for 2 other people! I buy food for myself! I've fking had enough! I am in the middle of buying a mini fridge with a padlock so they just fk off! I can't afford to move out yet but I am working so damn hard so I can leave here!Am I in the wrong, or being too selfish or should they respect the fact that I buy my own food, so I eat my own food? What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (19 January 2020):
 I second getting the mini fridge with the padlock.
It's difficult, to say the least, being at the mercy of those you can't rely on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2020): If you can stay with someone else do that.Like grandparents friends cousins anywhere but there.You are their child.They know what you must eat to stay alive.This is not normal...This is abuse big time.What mother would do this to her child?I am so sorry you were raised in such a way where you were not treated right.If I could I would take you in because this is just not right.Keep looking for jobs while you are working.It is always much easier to find a job when you have a job.You can do this.Be strong like I know you can be and get the heck away from this abuse.Be strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2020): Ask them to give you their money; so you can do the grocery shopping for all of you.
They may be finding nutritional benefit and delight in your choice of diet; and don't really know how to choose healthy foods like you do. I've never heard of a family living in one house, and not sharing food. It seems you are all struggling, if they have to eat your food!
If you come from parents who have known poverty; food and everything is shared in the household. They supported you all your life; and they are still providing you shelter, to help you save money.
The solution is simple. Go with them when they shop, combine your resources; and teach them how to pick the nutritional foods you buy. They can enjoy those things you get that they obviously enjoy.
They're your parents. How can you deny them anything, when you're living in THEIR home?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 January 2020):
 I think you should have used another approach with them than the one you used. I think they are being WRONG in eating your food but I also think they might be doing it on purpose, because they see you "horde" the good stuff and thus they want it too. Or the fact that they have tried to provide for you your whole life and now want a little payback?
If instead you had told them that you know they can't afford food for you specifically that you will take care of your own food as a way to help out. They might have understood that better, but who knows?
Get the little fridge with a padlock. And save up so you can move out asap. It seems a little toxic.
And maybe? Consider giving them a LITTLE money towards rent. If you can afford it.
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