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writes:Should my g/f wearing a ex's jacket bother me this much?I asked my g/f to drop something off at my place while she was running around and she hops out and is wearing a old b/f's biker jacket when I asked her why she says cause she only has 3 other jackets and that she wont wear it at the times we are out together, she is missing the whole point ...this bothered me, should it? Reply to this Question
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 The thing is: clothes are personal, sharing clothes is a sign of intimacy and giving an article of clothing has different meanings behind it...I wore me boyfriend's shirt to sleep all the time as a teenager, it reminded me of him and I felt closer to him by wearing it especially since we were LDR. Out of respect for my current bf, I don't wear it anymore. It's just a shirt, but it's from another period of my life and another person. My current bf would probably think I wasn't over my ex or something, and of course, thats not the case. So, as PeterPan suggested, take her out to get another jacket or give her one of yours and say something sweet like, "every time you wear this jacket, think of my arms being around you." I don't blame you for being bothered, but allow her to gradually relinquish the jacket-hopefully, she'll soon realize the point of NOT wearing it.
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reader, lamee  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 its OK to be jealous some time ,, how bout u give her one of urs to wear ,,, how that well make u feel ,, give it a try
good luck
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (7 November 2010):
 It seems that something about this jacket brings out feelings in you -- jealousy of the relationship she once hand with this previous boyfriend maybe? Whatever that issue is, you need to figure out what it is for yourself -- identifying what that is will be important for you because you need to communicate that to your girlfriend... if you can make her see your side then perhaps you convince her not to wear the jacket.
Of course, you might consider replacing it was another jacket you give her as a replacement -- just a suggestion
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reader, Miss.Me +, writes (7 November 2010):
 I understand why and how it would bother you, but logically it shouldn't. Her ex is out of the picture now and she's with you. Plus it's just a jacket, a piece of cloth. I have an ex's shirt, and while I think of him whenever I grab to put it on, the second I put it on it becomes just a shirt.
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