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writes:I have a wonderful fiance and we've been together for 8 months. He is HOT in every way, personality, looks and lovemaking. Once I mentioned that I wonder what it would be like to be w/a woman, and now, several times he has mentioned that it would be so HOT to watch me with another woman, and he'd arrange for me to be with a beautiful woman. Plus he's been w/this woman bf and said he wouldn't want to do anything w/her, just for both of them to please me. A part of me feels dirty even considering this...I told him I'd rather watch videos w/him and act out fantasies, which he is fine with. So, anyone ever done this before and what was the outcome?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all for your advice. I know I have a lot to think about bf doing this....not totally for or against it..would like more feedback, but I won't do it unless I feel I'm sure I want to do this for me and not just for him...and he too needs to know it could change our relationship for the better or worse...
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reader, Deema  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Well there was a lady on here not so long ago - most of the other aunts will remember this lady - and she had the same thing going but with 2 men. All I can say is, it was not a happy situation, and there seemed to be a lot of heartache involved. ALL 3 people in these situations have to be very secure and confident in themselves and their relationships, otherwise you are heading for disaster. There are a lot of emotions involved and you have to be prepared for those. You don't seem too keen anyway, so why put yourself and your relationship in jeopardy? Remember the saying 'When in doubt, do nowt'. Works every time.
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reader, sexylinz +, writes (10 June 2008):
 I haven't done it with another woman, but me and my partner have included another man in our love making before. It was my patner's fantasy and I wasn't sure if I wanted to try it, but i did to please him.
All i can say is ever since, i have regretted it. It doesn't cause problems within our relationship as he understands that it is something I will never do again. But i would suggest to you that you don't do this untill you are sure that it's what you want. You need to make sure that you wont regret it.
Hoped this helped
Linz x
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reader, jay27 +, writes (10 June 2008):
I have to confess that my favorfte porn is lesbian sex, and I know lots of guys who share that passion --- so your bf is I think "normal." I have fantasized many, many times about sex with two women, especially me watching them go at it. However I've never acted on this "secret desire."
In your case I think it all depends on you. Your bf apparently wants it and if you do and can find another girl who is into it, then go for it. I follow the libertarian polichy on sex---people should be able to perform any kind of sex they want so long as they are not forcing any person against his/her will.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (10 June 2008):
 I haven't done it, although I know a few people who have.
If you aren't absolutely sure you feel happy with this then don't do it. This sort of thing does work for some people, but more often than not there are emotional problems afterwards.
I would strongly advise against doing anything sexual that involves another person other than your partner unless both of you are absolutely sure you feel completely comfortable with it - and even then take it very slowly and cautiously.
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