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writes: Is it natural to think that your boyfriend would be happier, or better off with someone else? I keep having these feelings about my boyfriend and one of his coworkers...Any advice?
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Well how do you feel about him ? Does he make you happy, in order to be able to make him happy ? If either one of us feels that we are not making someone happy, it could be because we are not entirely happy with the relationship. So ask yourself this... Am I happy ? I think it will be no i'm not, and you need to address what it is that will make you happy, in order to make your man happy. If this is parting ways then so be it, but it could be something else, that you can work on together, dont just give him to someone else if you dont want to, just because you might think he would be happier. Work on it together, found out how to make each other happy! hes with you because he wants to be, men seldom stay where they are not happy for long. So chat to him ask him what makes him happy, but find out what would make you happy too!
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reader, ariel +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Hi NightAngle,
I think you feel threatened and loosing your confidence very fast. You need to take control of your relationship if you want it to last. If he was not happy he would be with her. Sure he finds her attractive but it does not mean he has been unfaithful. I hope that helped.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (12 June 2006):
 i think your in a bit of a pickle there then hun you really need to talk to him and find out what he wants that is if he knows himself.
good luck xxx
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reader, camille +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Oh well having read your response, what a charming man! I wouldn't waste my time with anyone who openly says something so insensitive. You deserve better. People can get on with others and laugh and joke and get on really well but the attraction comment would certainly bother me too.
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reader, NightAngel +, writes (12 June 2006):
NightAngel is verified as being by the original poster of the question I just want my boyfriend to be happy. When he's with her, he's more cherful and livly. He's already told me once that he is attracted to her. I dunno what to do...
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (12 June 2006):
i hate to put a downer on you but if you don't feel confident in yourself how can you be in a happy relationship low self asteem is never a good point in any love relationship you need to find out who your are before you can offer yourself to someone else i am going through the same thing so i understand completely what you are going through and how your feeling i hope if you have any other problem that you would feel free to e-mail direct. last words in the end be proud of who you are
i wish you all the very best be safe xxx
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reader, camille +, writes (12 June 2006):
You need to work on self esteem issues as the only reason you are feeling this is for some reason you think you aren't good enough and of course you are. He's with you and that speaks volumes so try to appreciate that he can see you're good enough, you just have to tell yourself. Obviously it's not as simple as that but start by telling your reflection in the mirror how great you are. Foucs on all your good qualities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): He's already told me he's attracted to her, they have more in common, and he just seems to be more cheerful and happy when he's around her. I dont know what to do.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (12 June 2006):
 What makes you think this other girl will make him happier than you do? It seems to me your self esteem might be quite low. If your man is still with you and being faithful, then it's obviously you who makes him happy. If you want to talk more, give me more details by messaging me privately.
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