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writes:Hi,I have been good friends with an ex of mine for a few years now, we used to talk regularly but since he met someone new about 6 months ago he never gets in touch now. This is unusual because he has stayed in touch throughout his other relationships. I dont think his girlfriend is the problem because she knows we are friends and he told me at the start that she encouraged him to continue our friendship as she is friends with her exes.Has this happened to anyone else?should i just leave him alone and accept our friendship is over?Thanks.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Maybe his relationship has moved into a new phase and he simply doesn't have time now to keep in touch. Peoples priorities change with their emotions.
Before, he was dating women but keeping touch with you. This was probably because those girlfriends wern't serious. Now, it seems, he has found 'the one' so understandably all his focus is on her and he just simply doesn't feel he needs you in his life.
This dynamic also works with any friend in general. When life moves on to a different level people move in different circles.
Just put him on your Christmas card list and accept the friendship has moved down in his importance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): Thanks for your replies, he doesnt need to answer to me at all i just dont see why we cant continue our friendship just because he is seeing someone else, weve been friends for years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): He may of wanted something more at that time (which you may do still now). It could be that he loves this girl now and he has`nt got a reason anymore.
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reader, loraemoon +, writes (30 July 2010):
 leave it hes obviously happy why would he need to answer to you ,his girlfriend may not be hapy hes still in contact with you, i certainly wouldnt if i was in that situation,if thats the case she prob doesent want to object to you but feels the need to keep him clear
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (30 July 2010):
I think you need to let things go..... you act like he owes you an explanation! of why hes not coming around or calling you. maybe he really met him a awesome person and has realized himself, and you know what else it could be? maybe he was still inlove w/ you and stayed around hoping? but nothing came out of it. now he has found someone he really cares about! can you live without his friendship??
Good Luck!
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