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writes:I haven't seen my boyfriend in several months. Over that time, I've been sick and have lost a lot of weight. I have always been slender, but this is a noticeable difference from last time since my family and friends have been commenting and saying somewhat hurtful things about my lack of a 'figure'This is has led to worry that he'll be surprised and disappointed with me now that I look different.Do I tell him about it before he sees me, and mention my illness so that he's aware? I know appearance does matter to guys. Reply to this Question
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (18 January 2012):
It wouldn't hurt mentioning to him that you've been sick and its caused some changes to your body. Not for the sake of pleasing his curiosity, but more just in casual conversation.
I couldn't see it as being a problem and as long as you get on the right track to getting your body healthy again, there shouldn't be any concern. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 January 2012):
If it is a noticeable difference, he might well be surprised. I can't really think of anyone I know that wouldn't be surprised if they suddenly saw that their girlfriends had lost weight. It's not so much about the 'appearance' thing - it just might be that he's shocked to see you in a different way.
It's probably worth saying something, but even if he is shocked, don't think that it's personal. You'll probably find that he's even a little worried about you.
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