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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:This is classic . . and I know you guys here this all the time the girl who fell for the guy . . who never payed any attention blah, blah, blah, Well no SURPRISE I was that girl. I had deep feelings for a friend and I never told him he was always with other girls ( not relationship wise) and I didnt feel I could compete .. really I didnt feel I should have to , if he couldnt see how special I was then I didnt want to be around. It wasnt just that, that help make my decision to ''walk away'' ( although I never did because people who walk away usually dont return) there were other things ; things inside of me . I was the one that got back in contact with him . . it was RANDOM , but I never stopped thinking about him .. and part of me wanted closure , I wanted to know it was ok to move on . Or did I ??? For a little over a month (after 3yrs) we have been talking a bit and texting .I found out he use to ''kinda'' like me and although he says nothing matters he seems to be holding the fact that I ''left'' against me. 4 a month ( im not going to lie) I took all the blame , but then I finally text him that I felt he was putting all the fault on me when in fact we were both wrong , both young. He asked me y I came back and honestly I dont know y .but I did miss our friendship. Problem is he's hot and cold .. (I know people change) but if he didnt want anything to do with me y give me his # ?? Y text me and send pics ?? And y after all that tell me there's no real point in me being around ?? I thought if a guy didnt want you around he would just tell you . everytime I ask him he says Im in control of the situation Huh?? Yet the doesnt respond to me sometimes . . I thought about walking away again because sorry doesnt seem to work but if I do that im afraid I'll look like a flake .. but I cant go on like this another month?? I cant do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I think this guy is messing you around. He knows how you feel about him and seems to be using that to his advantage.Telling you that you are the one in control of things makes it look like you are the one who has to make all the decisions. By saying that, he also cleverly gets himself a loop hole because if things go wrong between the pair of you then he can turn it around on you and say well you where the one in control so its your mess, you sort it out. He could leave the blame completely on you and thats not right. Make sure if you going to hang in there that this guy knows where his priorities lie xx
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