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writes:hello, Im a girl from Asia, I havent got much sex education at school, and so at this age when I know the time is coming I feel a bit confused. I'd like to prepare for my first time and also my sex life in the long run. Plz help me with these questions:1) Should he use a condom if Im already protected by the pills? Can I get pregnant? (Im not worried bout the STDs coz we both tested)2) We're at the same age and this will be both our first time, what should we do to enjoy ourselves the most?3) I know about the bleeding at the 1st time but does it prevent me from having an orgasm?Thanx a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): I personally wouldn't want to lose my virginity to a rubber, but if you are worried about getting preggers, a rubber would help.
Lots of lube, K-Y Jelly, which won't irritate you.
and LOTS of foreplay.
Depending on the amount of pain, it might prevent you from having an orgasm.
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 Ok, first of all, no method of contraception is 100% effective, so if you do go on the pill, using a condom might make you feel safer!
I keep suggesting to people that you look up the Billings Method, a natural method, which helps you recognise when you are ovulating. The trick is not to have sex for the 9 days of ovulation time. The rest of the time you are 99% safe without needing to go on the pill, but he can still use a condom.
2) Spend a while kissing, cuddling and exploring each other's bodies. Share a massage and pay attention to each other's reaction, as some people have unexpected erogenous zones. Some guys, for instance, really like their nipples massaged! I find my knees are particularly sensitive!
Spend time learning how to please each other by practicing oral and manual sex.
All this will get you turned on enough to fully enjoy penetration.
3) Bleeding is not a problem, the pain might be. If you feel pain, get him to rest inside you for a moment, then slowly start thrusting. If you've spent enough time relaxing and getting moist before intercourse, you should be fine for him to build up speed until you both come.
If he's a virgin too, make sure he stops and starts, to avoid him coming too soon!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Hi Hunny
Im going to send you a link so you have all the imformation you need hunny safe sex is always best when your first starting to be sexually active I hope this link can give you all the advise you need and yes you can orgasm when bleeding, And for the first time enjoy each others bodys and get to know what each other likes....
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/frequently-asked-questions-about-sex-and-relationships
Hunny this should answer your questions and more HOPE IT HELPS WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, chjick +, writes (29 February 2008):
I not sure on the orgasm thing but I would use a condom. This WILL prevent any infectious diseases. Then you are safe
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): So long as you can trust eachother implicitly, a condom should be unnecessary. Bear in mind though that no method of birth control is 100% foolproof so maybe, for your own peace of mind regarding possible pregnancy, use a condom.Your second question, only you both know the answer to - just see where it takes you and don't try anything that your doubtful about. Just make sure that the place you choose is private and that you won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy yourselves!Now not every woman bleeds the first time but even so, you may not experience an orgasm. This is something you both will achieve with practice and no, if you bleed it will not necessarily prevent orgasm.Hope this helps, good luck and have fun!
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