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writes:There is this girl I know and were not exactly boyfriend girlfriend but we sure have a connection and i love this person very much. Well I read her diary and it said at the ages of 9-10 she was molested every day and practically raped and it happened from two guys around the ages of 16 and it also said how she is ashamed and doens not want to start any fights. Im not sure exactly what that means but I think it means two guys probably in her family would have sex with her everyday but maybe it means they just touched her but im not sure since it only said what it said. Now she is 15 and she has an eating disorder and she cuts a lot and keeps it hidden under her sleeves. After i started feeling her love I found myself thinking about her when i masterbate and im still a virgin and almost every time i do it I can't help myself to think of her and now after reading her diary I feel so guilty when i start feeling like i want to masterbate and I was wandering whats wrong with me and how should I try to get her in some kind of therapy so she can talk about what happened in her past or is it better for her to try and forget about it and just never bring it up?Please anyone tell me your opinions im so lost
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reader, Pyroshadow +, writes (6 January 2011):
Yes you should talk to her about seeking out help.
Also your post says you are 22-25... and the girl is 15. You would be adding to her problems not helping her if you attempted a relationship with her.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 It is up to her. The fact that she wrote about it in her diary means she is not ready for anyone to know but she needed to let it out somewhere. Just be there for her so that when she breaks down she can come to you for comfort without having to tell you. Stop her from cutting herself, make her happy again so she feels like eating. Do everything you can to take her mind off of what happened to her but, do so in such a way that she does not suspect that you read her diary which by the way was very wrong of you but perhaps, everything happens for a reason. Never let anyone else know about this. If she refuses to stop cutting or eating, then suggest therapy for her because this is something important, let her know that it is out of care. It is her choice so be careful and be gentle.
I hope that helps.
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