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writes: We all like to be positive, especially when seeing friends, no one likes a negative, whining person or one that hogs the spotlight and makes things all abut them.I have had a bad last year, not a happy one and am seeing a friend in a few wks ive not seen in a year. She had health issues a few yrs back, we were friends yrs ago but we lost contact for ages. We regained contact 2 yrs ago but have only seen each other 3 times since.Anyway Im glad we are meeting up, this friend always talks about her work and her studies, she goes on and on and on., and honestly forgets to talk about other things,shes quite absent minded at times and will forget to shut up. Im happy she loves it and is is passionate about it, but it would be nice if she didn't go on so much. She may ask me how I am and I don't want to whine but I don't want to pretend Ive had a fantastic 20013 as I didn't! is it Ok if I say that Im ok but havent had the best year? I dont want to be negative. I want to focus on being happier and meeting new ppl this year as last year wasn't good for me.Is it ok to say you are not that great? or better to say the usual "good thanks" Ive been very negative in the past about me and had very low self esteem and am trying to be more positive nowthankyou
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (2 February 2014):
If you don't want to whine, don't, but if you can't be honest about your life to your friends, who can you be honest to? And what's the point of having friends if you can't be truthful about yourself to them? You don't have to dive into every detail of the negative things from 2013, but you can give a brief gloss over. If you really don't want to talk about it, then saying things haven't been the greatest but they are turning around is a good way to not really tell her anything and let her know you don't want to go into the details. The "I'm good" response to "how are you" is usually reserved for strangers and acquaintances. Friends can take the truth.
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