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writes:Me and my boyfreind of a year and half are recently going through a few problems and because of these i am thinking about start another ralationship with a lad i met 6months ago. Hes stoped ringing me because i have a boyfreind. should i text this lad and meet up with him to see where it gets us? or should i just leave it and try and mend things with my boyfreind now?
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (20 September 2006):
 Well good luck, But I suggest if you are going to carry on seeing your boyfriend and make a go of it, that you have no contact whatsoever with this other lad.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou all for your help but my boyfreind as resently been hurt so bad and he blows hot and cold because of this but i think im going to stick with him i love him dearly and i know well make it because we have been through some really tough times and have always made it! i cant give up on him and wont!
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reader, jessi +, writes (14 September 2006):
If you are really unhappy in this relationship and its beyond repair then yes leave it but do not text or ring this lad while you are in a relationship that is betrayel. you obviously should try and work things out because relationships take time and effort there is no such thing as fairytales at the begining you have to work at it so take some time out from your boyfriend and give yourself some time to think.So you can work out what you really want, you deserve some happiness 2 xxxxgoodluckxxxxxx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (14 September 2006):
Honey if someone can hurt you over a chicken dinner, something you have done for them that is nice and thoughtful.. then they are not worth any more anguish. My sister was in a relatinoship for 7 years with her ex, he was violent too, not all the time, everyone thought he was lovely, but it was the times things didnt go his way when he lashed out.. One time, she had crushed a cigerette packet, he was so mad he lashed out and broke her nose!! She stayed with him as he said he was sorry time and time again, but after a time she just couldnt take anymore, he had physically drained her and changed her. She did leave and is really great now, but to suffer all that is really hard, its mental on physical torture. The new guy sounds really nice, maybe not use him as a rebound, but certainly get rid of the current bf and explore the avenue with the sweet caring guy, you deserve to be happy not just when your bf decides your allowed to be. Its time to move on and and find a healthy happy relationship.
Take care x x
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reader, Herr Professor +, writes (14 September 2006):
 Okay, sweetie, that's all I need to know. He's verbally and physically abusive. It might have only been once that he hit you, but it could certainly happen again, especially if that time was over something as trivial as a chicken dinner.
Move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell we have been argueing for about 3-4months now ive moved out when we lived together because he was to selfish. the arguements are over things like his ex,his selfishness, and any other thing we argue about like when i answer him a wrong answer hell shout at me he has hit me once as he went out for the nght i cooked him a chicken dinner and i woke him up for it and he attacked me but he has never done it since. this other lad ive known him 6months and he is so careing. what now?
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reader, Herr Professor +, writes (14 September 2006):
I think it depends on the severity of the problems and what's actually going on in your relationship with your boyfriend. I mean, if he's a layabout who's on drugs and knocking you around, that's one thing. If you guys fight because he forgets to put the toilet seat down and leaves the cap off the toothpaste, that's something else all together.
One thing I wouldn't advise is ending one relationship to start up another. If you do decide to end things with the current bf, why not casually date someone else instead of jumping into another relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): if you've been together for a year and a half you should give it a little while and make sure it really is over cus you've invested a lot of time into that relationship but in the meanwhile be friends with the other bloke
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