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writes:i've been madly in love for this girl for a lot of time. and i guess she feels just a bit attracted for me. but i suffer from an early case of borderline personality disorder. it makes me a very problematic person. but i care so much about her that i'm not sure if i should tell her or not. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, the one who doesn't know +, writes (9 November 2008):
the one who doesn't know is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you so much. now i know, it's better to put myself at risk, that to end up in something way worse than just a empty lonelyness.
with the best wishes:
E.U Atmard :)
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reader, HotANDcold  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 Hey dude being honest is the most importat thing in a person and i am completely sure she would appreciate that.don't judge yourself base on that problem because its not fair.i think you should tell her and let her be the one who decides if she wants to give it a try or not. no matter whats your case everybody deserves to experience the magic of having someone to care about and love.You're not the only person with that problem,im not gonna say i know people with the same situation,but i know myself im really hard to deal with sometimes. The main reason why i brokeup with my girlfriend was because we both had a bad temper.Good luck
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reader, bemused  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 Well,you are honest about the things in your life that you are dealing with....many people would not be. I would hold off on saying anything to her at this point. You say you are in love with her but how well do you know her? Have you spent much time with her, know her well? It sounds like you have an emotional and chemical attraction but it would be my take that maybe you need to let things develop slowly and naturally. If this is the case and you already have that kind of relationship then I would say you could say something....kind of try out her reaction. If you do know her well, she may be aware of your mood swings so she would be realistic about it. I think the thing is that telling someone you like them when you really do not have a friendship relationship with them leaves you vulnerable...take your time...no rush. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): ok well if ya realy have a lot of feelings for her then get to know her more and if u already have make friends with one of her girlfriends and ask them who she likes. and if u want just go up to her and say wat uve been wanting to get out and see how she reacts and maybe ull get a gf! and if thats hard for u DO NOT sned up one of ur friends to tell her it will make u look cheesey and bad. so try and hang out with her more and when your ready ask her to go with u somewhr private and tell her how u feel.
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reader, wildcats21 +, writes (8 November 2008):
okay....coming from a girls point of view....I think you should tell her. If she likes you and you don't tell her then she might move on by the time your ready to tell her. They say that its better to have tried then sit there and watch it go by. I hope this helps you....i help a bunch of kids in my school im there "counselor"....lol...
thts wht they call me.
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reader, vilipili +, writes (8 November 2008):
 i think that you should tell her. you never know what might happen. when it comes to love, it doesn't matter what disease you have, if she feels the same way she'll understand it and it won't change anything =] good luck
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