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*teelhawk65
writes:Hi, I'm 15 years old and have a crush on a guy, and I'm gay, but no one knows. (except you of course) I just recently switched classes, and I'm in the same class as him(the guy I have a crush on) ... and for better or for worse, we're partners. We get along pretty well and all, and I've been thinking about telling him that I'm gay. But, I'm very scared of what his reaction would be, he could flip shit and tell the whole school and I'd get made fun of and turn into a social outcast. And as for my question.... Should I tell him that I'm gay? or just keep hiding it?
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (27 October 2010):
 As a rule, you should only come out to someone whom you TOTALLY trust. That kind of trust only comes with years of friendship.
So, If you don't know he feels about others being gay then I wouldn't say anything to him - otherwise your worst nightmare (that of being outed involuntarily) might just come true. If anything, for now, you need to make him your best friend. Get to know him LOTS better. Basically you have to become inseparable. Take the same classes, if you can, but only if you like the same things. Don't, for instance, take shop if that's something that you can't stand or are not good at.
Once you've known him for quite a while and you've had the opportunity to really get to know him and how he feels. Then you can truly decide whether to come out to him... or not.
Try not to 'project' any attitudes, likes, dislikes ONTO him you'll only end up hurting yourself when you find he feels otherwise.
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reader, athena546 +, writes (26 October 2010):
first you should find out if he is gay or becoming gay he might be bi or straight if he is gay you should find out if he likes you if not keep fantising about him or find somebody else
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