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writes: Okay so I have a major problem. It's the second time that I've had the guilty feeling this bad. But it's for really stupid things. I've done really really worse things and I've never given it a second thought and it just bugs me that I'm bothered by things that arent important.So yeah, the problem is that years ago I found out that my mother had a vibrator and I was a bit disgusted for a while but then curiousity kicked in and I used it about twice but it was boring. So about 3 weeks ago, I went through a tough time and yeah, the curiousity kicked in again so I used it again. So, two nights ago I was just trying to go to sleep and I thought about it and the guilt hit me. Now I can hardly stop thinking about it and it's driving me nuts knowing that I have to go through this all again. I really dont want to tell my mother but I just feel that she needs to know even though I know that she wouldn't really want to find out, but in the day my head just goes through different scenarios on how I can tell her and how she'll react which just makes it worse.So I want to know what you think and what other people do when they get this stupid but very destructing feeling of guilt. Please Help!Many Thanks xx
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reader, 2cool4skool  +, writes (9 March 2009):
okay first of all ewww...why would you want to use something that touched your moms vagina...okay you did come out of that thing but this over the top...you need to never tell her that because she might look at you like some freaky pervert...and don't ever touch her vibrator ever again...BUY YOUR OWN
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): I don't think you need to tell your mom, and don't use it again just go ahead and get your own. What you did wasn't wrong but it is your mom's not yours so just don't use it. Your mom really don't need to know about it though.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 I really doubt whether you're mom will be pleased that you used her vibrator, she will probably feel quite disappointed in you too. So, it's best not to use it again, and if you feel the curiosity again, I agree with what aunty_rach said and maybe buy one of your own or use something else.
Hope my advise has helped :)
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (18 February 2009):
don't tell her! but don't use it again!
buy yourself one or something that vibrates if you don't want to feel awkward buying a sex toy. something like an electric toothbrush would work. just don't use your mums again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Don't tell your mom... not only does she not need to know, she probably doesn't WANT to know. Honestly, you did nothing wrong, there's nothing to feel guilty about. I did some similar when I was a kid. Just wash it thoroughly, put it back where you found it and buy your own. There's really nothing to feel bad about.
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reader, femalecupid00  +, writes (17 February 2009):
WHO YOU SEEM LIKE A DESCENT HONEST YOUNG GIRL. Dont be afraid to tell your mom she'll respect your honesty. its better for you to experiment with a vibrator than actually having sex like other teens. your mom is lucky and believe me she'll know it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): I hope that you washed it
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): I found one time porno books under my parents bed (together with a vibrator) and what did I do?
I went to the sexshop (29 years ago) and bought a new package for them and added it to their stock :):)
After a week (or 2 weeks I don't remember) she found it and gave it back to me and we could laugh about it.
So this was almost a generation ago. My parents were only listening the classic music (strauss,Bizet etc) going to opera to give you an idea, very decent people, in the meantime 46 years happy married.
You are exploring and what you did is very normal.
You know her the best and you know if she can handle, but honestly, sex is something very natural and I think that you can talk with her about it. It could be a start to talk about these natural things that are a part of growing up.
I guess that I am about your mother's age and I would admire if my daugther would tell and I am sure that also my friends would do the same.
I would tell her if you feel guilty, better being honest to yourself. Even if she is feeling a bit embarrassing, it's not a big thing what you did.
Hope my experience helped you a bit, you are very normal (I am still smiling about what you did :):))
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): i think you should just let it go. XD.So let it go dudet. I mean I know it's horrible with all the guilt but your mum won't want to know you used it. Think of it as doing her favor by not telling her.To let go of the guilt reassure yourself by thinking how better off your mum is not knowing and get your own toy to play with or a sexy bloke to satisfy your needs. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didnt go through her things. We were having a big tidy up and she told me to look in her wardrobe for clothes that I might like and thats how I found it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): If this is te case then tell your mum if it is that bad, i mean if i were inyour position i would most probably keep it to myself or tell a friend it already goes a bit, maybe you could go on a walk try and clear your head:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know it sounds easy to just let it go, but the guilt rips me up inside and drives me nuts. Coz the first time I had a giult trip like this I spent a month worrying about it and then it went away for the next month but came back. I just need to know how to get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd just to let you know, I'm not planning on using it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): all i can really say is your mother doesnt need to know about it, just think about the reason why you used it. You said about going through a tough time maybe you could find a hobby or something you really love to do to keep you occupied instead of using the vibrator. Also i would say you probably shouldnt use it again (especially if she has used it:S)hope this helps:) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question I really do want to tell her but I know that she wont be happy about it (which of course is understandable) and I dont want to ruin the good friendship we have at the moment. But I know that she wouldnt want to know and that she will not talk to me for a long time. What if she feels disgusted and hates me? And how can I get over this stupid guilt feeling?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 February 2009):
 Your Mother does not need to know!! Please, just don't do it again. That's the best you can do! Please absolve yourself of the guilt - yes, what you did was definitely weird, stupid, but it wasn't the most horrible thing in the universe. You didn't BETRAY your Mom, you didn't do anything hateful to your mother, you just were a little pervy (and I mean that in the nicest way possible).
So, let go of the guilt, don't tell you Mom, and just get your own vibrator!!!!!!!!!!! Or, use your hand!!!!!!!! Neither of which have been touched by your Mom's naughty bits!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Well, I think you might want to talk to your mother about it. What you are doing is normal, you just may want to get your own vibrator....if your mom has one, don't you think she will understand you? Relax and open up to your mom....that is her job to hear you out.
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