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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I've got a friend who I've been having crush on over a year and he had crush on me (he told me)... when we've been out few times, we made out (only kissing etc) and I've developed feelings for him...Unfortunately, he wanted just fun and no relationship.. But this september, he went study abroad which made me really sad, because I really liked him, but I knew, that "out of sight, out of mind" will easily apply here...I told myself that i'd stop contact him to forget about him, because it only hurt me when I imagine all the new pretty schoolmates around him (he's extremely friendly)..But somehow, I can't cut the contact with him..We chat on facebook like twice a week, sometimes even to the late hours in the night (but it's usually me who initiate contact, altough he responds immediately)..sometimes the chat goes really flirty which makes me attached to him even more.. But also it keeps hurting me more, because I know I can't have him and I want him so bad...Should I tell him about my feelings to him? Altough I know it wouldn't change anything, because he is so far..or should i stop contact him totally? But I'd miss him so much..thank you very much!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 October 2017):
 If you are both far away from each other and neither off you are prepared to move to be with the other then is there any point in telling him? If it is not going to change anything then it might be best just to end contact and wish him well. What is the point in holding on to these feelings when they will only hurt you in the end and maybe stop you from meeting someone else.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (24 October 2017):
 It is terrible to want something you can't have. Particularly when you are of an age when marriage or a committed relationship must be on your mind.
Unless there is some way you can be together then you are just dreaming. Is it possible?
If it is not then put your fantasy aside. If it is possible then do something about it. Make decisions. Decisions are empowering!
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