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writes:I have a good male friend that has a girlfrind that he has been dating for a few months.She is a really cool person,but for the last month or so,i having been getting this flirty vibe from her.At first i thought that i was tripping a little bit ,but about a week ago,we were all hanging out at a party,and my good male friend's girlfriend and I were at the party together.My friend was at work so he did not come with us,but while we were there I ended up getting a huge buzzed off the vodka I had there.I couldnt drive,so she offered to drive me home and she would have him pick her up when he got off work.Well when we pulled up to my house ,i had drifted off to sleep from the ride.She woke me up by kissing me ,at first i was feeling kinda funny but i let it continue,it got really out of hand ,she was kissing me everywhere,suddenly i got out the car a ran to my door and into my bedroom.i closed the door and locked it,not because i was scared of what had just happen but, because i liked it so much i didnt want her to stop.Eventually i came out and we talked ,right up until he came.She wouldnt admit if she was bi sexual or anything in that category except for she wouldnt change a thing that had just almost happen between us.Well this week my friend and i were talking and he said that she was bi sexual and that she told him that when they first got together. I was kind of shocked because she kept acting like what happen between me and her a week ago was very new to her.He then confessed to me that she is and always has been attracted to me,but she told him that she would never make any advances on that matter.He laughed about the whole situation regarding that matter, but she did kiss me and touch me in ways that he wouldnt believe,and now im thinking should i tell him what happen between me and her........
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate.Well i couldnt tell my friend about what happen between me and his girlfriend.I ended up avoiding her as much as i could.But what happen between us started bothering me so much that i couldnt handle my thoughts about it.So i just said forget it.I stop avoiding her.I have learn to deal with the situation as best as i could.We ended up messing around again about a few weeks ago,and every day since then.I really feel bad,because im letting my body do the talking instead of my mind.Im not a lesbian,im bi-sexual I guess.This is the 1st time ive had any sexual thoughts about a female.I know that i will have to let this out to my friend eventually,but i dont want to stop whats going on between me and his girl friend because honestly,im enjoying it to much.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): They're probably grooming you for a threesome. His comments about his gf liking you (so soon after the incident happened) seem like too much of a coincidence to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): If it happens again, you tell her you dont like it and you would tell her boyfriend if she wont stop. After that you can decide from her actions.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 Would you want to know if the situation was reversed? Probably not WANT to know, but you would need to know right?
To be honest, he might think it is hot, how do you think threesomes get started but since you don't want to get involved, you need to make it clear that you do NOT want to get involved.
So tell him, yes it might hurt him but it can cause far greater hurt and a mess if things get out of control or he finds it out from someone else.
Real friends tell you stuff, even if it hurts you to protect you from even worse, that is my motto. It ain't an easy motto to life by.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (11 October 2009):
 OF COURSE!
How long have you known your friend, and how long have you known this woman?
If you value your friendship with this man you will let him know right away. To do anything else is to condone what happened, and basically you are helping this woman to continue a lie and foment cheating, because thats what that was.
If you dont tell him and he finds out(which he will, it always happens that the other person finds out)expect some real repercussions. Some friend you are to even keep it from him this long. What the hell are you thinking?
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reader, Tarawr +, writes (11 October 2009):
 I think you should tell him. She cheated, and I think anyone would like to be told when their boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on them, no matter how much it hurts.
And you did right in fleeing when she started doing it. Most people would have just kind of gone with it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 October 2009):
You need to tell her that she should either focus on her relationship or split up. Don't tell him, because it might hurt him a lot. Or worse, he'll get an idea about a threesome. Talk to her, tell her that she needs to focus on her relationship and don't be drunk around her again.
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