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writes:i have a crush on one of my guy friends, but i've known him since we were kids and i don't want to ruin my friendship, should i tell him that i like him?
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (10 August 2011):
Well, if you are constantly in touch with this guy your crush will probably not go away, and crushes can get to the point of being painful if not handled. I once waited so long to tell a girl "friend" (as opposed to girlfriend, get the difference) that I had a crush on her, that she got back together with her ex-boyfriend. OUCH!!!
If he is still unattached, make your move now.
You can't be afraid anymore of ruining your friendship. Not telling him or doing anything about it will eventually ruin it anyway (or at least ruin you).
Or, instead of telling him about it, use some of your "woman craft" to seduce him. You know, touch him more often, laugh a little harder at his jokes, tell him he looks good, you know what to do.
Lastly, what is this idea out there that you should not hook up with your friends? Really, is it better to hook up with people you really don't know that well or care about as much? In the end, if you marry someone, its the friendship aspect that is going to keep you married. You already have that with him. Your relationship has a better chance of lasting than with some stranger. Think on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): hii...
i remember struggling with this issue CONSTANTLY back when i was around your age!!! soo, i definitely know how hard it can be to tell a friend that you like them. buuut, i found out that really, it's just like anything else in life: you just have to put on your big-girl panties (sorry, i had to say it...hahaa) and step up to the plate and see what happens. it does have the potential to ruin the friendship; i had that happen to me several times. buuut then again, it also has the potential to be really, really good for the friendship. when i was a sophomore in high school, i had a crush on my best guy friend, and after he found out that i liked him, it just brought us closer together. we never dated or anything, buuut...you get what i'm saying. really, you just have to go for it. just be brave...and remember that with God, all things are possible. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (9 August 2011):
You're what, 15 at the oldest? By next year you'll have had 3 more crushes and so will he.
But if you want to, get a bit flirty, see if he flirts back. Ask him to go to the movies, kind've as friends, but alone, so you can see how that feels and see how it goes from there. At that age telling someone you like them doesn't really have an effect on anything, to be honest.
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