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Should I stop watching porn?

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Question - (27 July 2011) 20 Answers - (Newest, 5 August 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Can anyone tell me of any reasons that they can think of as to why I shouldn't watch porn? I watch it every couple of weeks, or so - just when I'm in the mood to. But then I feel sort of guilty, like I shouldn't be watching it. Do you think I should just allow myself to watch it? If not, any ways I can convince myself to stop? Thanks.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011):

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Sorry, forgot to update again. To Anonymous, I get what you're saying, but I'd try to not make a habit out of viewing porn, so I don't think it'd have any major negative effects?

And to anonymous male reader, I currently don't have a relationship to "ruin" by porn-viewing, and I think if I were in a relationship where I was sexually active, I wouldn't watch porn. I don't know why, and I don't know if that's true (as I'm a virgin) but anyway.

Thanks again to everyone for your responses.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011):

As I read through a lot of stories on here, there is common pattern here. The majority of people don't think that Porn has any real effects, not true. Science is showing more and more evidence on the effects of pornography and relationships. Check out this video called "Maria's Story - How pornography effected her relationship" Every exposure to porn just increases your risk for addiction, male or female. Why risk it? This website has a lot of good stuff on this issue: http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/Blog/Blog-Detail/Marias-Story--Pornography-affected-my-relationship/

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A male reader, Nik0311 United States +, writes (3 August 2011):

Nothing at all wrong with this, as long as its not effecting your work or relationships.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011):

perfectly normal. Enjoy it.

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A female reader, JustAGirl.x United Kingdom +, writes (30 July 2011):

JustAGirl.x agony auntyou watch it every few weeks? theres nothing wrong with that, enjoy it, you have nothing to feel guilty about! there is no reason why you should stop!

if it gets to the point where your watching it 100 times a day, or it takes over your sex life then thats when it becomes an addiction and you need to stop, but your fine for now!

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico + , writes (28 July 2011):

Danielepew agony auntAll I can tell you is, this is not my business. I wonder if I make it clear what I mean with this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011):

well, porn can be many things.. A simple turn on, boredom, but if you feel like you "need to watch it" sometimes, you have a lil problem.. there is something inhuman about watching two/more strangers having intercourse and doing many things, that actually gets most appreciated when you do it with someone you appreciate. Porn can have many downsides, example the fiction. It can ruin your brain give you a weird idea of sex and lust, and twist your reaction to intercourse. I think porn can ruin your sexlife.. And also, you shouldnt challenge your libido too much by getting the habit by watching porn.. It will just become become sex. And lust. Maybe some of you don't think so much about it, "who cares, It's nice. Its Sex. don't feel guilty, you arent addicted" but I think of it as intimacy between a man and a woman, who think the other one is special. Would you rather want 3 diamonds, or 300 pieces of coal? Please, stop before it gets serious.. P.s what would you feel if your boyfriend hid a camera while intercourse and showed it to strangers that could buy the tape? or randomly click into it and watch?

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A female reader, missy_musk United Kingdom +, writes (27 July 2011):

missy_musk agony auntnothing wrong with watching porn!!! better to be watching porn then to be sleeping around!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011):

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Hi everyone, thank you so much for your responses. I really don't know why I feel guilty, I think I'll just dismiss those feelings. And like most of you said, I don't really watch it that often so I guess it's not really a big deal. Thank you again.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011):

Yea I used to be the same way. I wasnt addicted or any thing id just watchit oh about every other night. (i was a virgin at the time) but every time after I felt really guilty. I know its normal to watch porn but i just felt bad. I finally stopped watching it when I was 19. You really have to just do what you feel. For me I just could shake the guilt. Hope that helps.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (27 July 2011):

chigirl agony auntWhy would you stop watching porn, any good reasons not to?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011):

Hey, don;t feel guilty!! Porn is fine in small doses I find. Take it as a leisure activity,as you would say playing Playstation, or badminton or whatever. The key is to only watch it now and then, and take is as a bit of fun. The problems and bad feelings come when it gets to regular. See it as a treat every couple of months, Watch it, enjoy it, then put the DVD's away where yu can;t get to them that easily, that way , if you do decide to look earlier, you will think twice, as it wil be a pain getting them out again!! under the stairs, in a box full of junk works for me. by the time I get to them I am turned off anyway!! Just now and then is fine, and the guilt feelings will go and you;ll see it for what it is.. a bit of harmless fun. Hope that helps. xx :o)

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A male reader, doublejack United States +, writes (27 July 2011):

Watching porn is a normal and perfectly healthy thing for an adult to do, as long as it isn't excessive... and watching every couple of weeks or so because you're in the mood for it is just fine. I'd say that's definitely well within an acceptable range.

Really, you shouldn't feel guilty about it. There's a reason porn rules the internet in terms of content... lots of people, both men and women, watch it.

I suggest allowing yourself to continue viewing porn. If you're in the mood for it and it makes you feel good, then go for it!

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A female reader, josephy France +, writes (27 July 2011):

josephy agony auntI know that a lot of people here will disagree with what I'm gonna say here but I'm gonna say it anyway. what happens in the bedroom should be kept in the bedroom. No one supposes to be looking at what's happening in other people bedrooms and that's why as I see is the reason behind the guilt one might feel after watching porn. if you aren't addicted to porn now you will be with time. stopping now is much better before it screws up your head. Its a fantasy land.

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A male reader, olderthandirt United States +, writes (27 July 2011):

olderthandirt agony auntIf you feel bad then stop otherwise it's normal as far as I know to be curious.

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A male reader, claws United States +, writes (27 July 2011):

well yes speaclly if your married you stop but me i go crazy over porn i try to watch it every day but ya i know it's a bad habbit so yes you should stop . i'm trying to

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A male reader, Philips United Kingdom +, writes (27 July 2011):

Philips agony auntCouple of weeks doesn't look like dependency. I don't see any reason for you to feel guilty.

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A male reader, Ronnie70 United Kingdom +, writes (27 July 2011):

Ronnie70 agony auntSome people get off by watching The Sound of Music whilst others get off by watching Debbie Does Dallas. You might think them weird whilst they might think you weird. It takes all sorts to make a world - of which you're part of.

You carry on enjoying your porn and let the others enjoy watching Julie Andrews. I don't see any problem whatsoever.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011):

Every few weeks is not a habit. As long as it doesn't interfere with your ability to get things done, I say dont worry. But obviously it bothers you, so oerhaps you need to find other things to do.

Porn has a place in the modern world. I am not of the attitude that it is sinful or evil. Just as long as it doesnt become a dependency thing or negatively impact a relationship or your life. There have been many instances where it spiced up my marriage and perhaps even saved us in the bedroom.

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A female reader, VSAddict United States +, writes (27 July 2011):

VSAddict agony auntYou're doing nothing wrong. It's not like you're addicted so don't feel guilty. Just enjoy it.

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