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writes:I am 33 years old and my boyfriend has a boot fedish. In the beginning I didn't bother me but now it is out of hand. I feel he doesn't care for me if I don't wear them. Should I just turn the other cheek? THX Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Im sure your partner is getting turned on by the way you look in the boots and not just the boots alone.
Its ok to have a fetish as long as both of the people in the relationship are happy with it. If its getting a bit too much to wear them all the time, why not put it to him that you want to supprise him with them ocasionally rather than all the time. then he will get even more excited, and he will feel as if your doing it for him rather than thinking that your becoming bored of it.
Hope I have helped.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 May this fetish has now become a routine and is no longer fun for you.
It is natural that you want to please him but you also need to have fun with it.
Have a talk with him and find a compromise.
Perhaps if you both agree to do it less, he will enjoy it more too as he has to look forward to it by waiting a few days!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): I was interested to see this question, as my boyfriend has a real thing for my stiletto heel boots which he frequently asks me to wear (nearly everytime we get intimate). I dont mind doing it occasionally but it does make me feel like he only wants me because I wear the boots and doesnt want me just as I am. I have said to him that i dont mind occasionally but I wont dress up for him all the time. Mine also likes me to be dominant and light bondage, which really im not that into, and again I would think if this became too frequent I would seriously consider our relationship as we may not be that suited.
I suppose with your question if it makes you feel so uncomfortable and after talking to him about it he doesnt take into consideration your feelings then it is time to evaluate what you really want from a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): I guess it depends on how much you want to be with him.
Fetishism is when someone uses a non-living object in order to be sexually arroused, they need that object. If your boyfriend is happy with this, then there is not much you can do, but if it is a problem for him, then he can seek treatment. It is widely accepted that paraphilias stem from childhood.
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