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*roken-hearted-girl
writes:I was at a party with my boyfriend. He got drunk and then told me to 'shut up' when i was talking to him! I was shocked and horrified. His best friend heard him and told him to apologise to me. I felt really hurt that my boyfriend would do such a thing! That same night, he was flirting a lot with his female friends and at one point in the night he kissed his female friend on the lips - but from where i was standing it looked and felt so inappropriate! I really thought they were about to start kissing with tongue! He was also flirting with her saying things like he wanted to grab her bum and that she has nice tits... He jokingly offered a "screw against the wall". I just felt like it was all inappropriate considering i am his girlfriend. Plus, before the party he was so grumpy with me all day. It was like he was hating to be around me but the minute we were at the party, he was fine again and fun with his friends.I had a horrible night because of these instances and was wondering if i should just break up with him...?
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reader, xxbaybeegal  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 you think....you should break up with him. that is so like no excuse to get drunk and kiss a girl while you where there. what kind of boyfriend duz that...one not like him. and if he tried the *im sorry but i was drunk* thing then just dump him then he'll know next time if he get a gf he wont kissing other people in front of her. do whats best for you not him
gd luck xxx
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 After his head cleared and he sobered up, did you try talking to him about his behavior? And did he offer any excuses, apologies or remorse? If not, I suspect your b/f is getting relationship-claustrophobic. Meaning, he no longer wants to be tied down and you are becoming a noose around his neck. He obviously has his eye on a number of other gals, and it doesn't sound like he wants to be committed to just one. I think you would be wise to break up with him and allow him to grow up a bit. Otherwise he will continue to chip away at your self esteem, and treat you like dirt. Good luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 I am sorry you were made to witness his display of callous behaviour and put up with all his affronted monkey acts.I would have walked up to him and splash my drink over his face and walk right out there and then.
He could be angry with you and wanted to punished you infront of his friends.
Don't let him step over you like a door mat.He does not deserve you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): I think you should. I also think that's what he wants you to do. His behaviour suggests that he hasn't got the guts to break up with you and he's giving you every excuse to do it for him. When he was drunk he said the things he wasn't brave enough to say when sober. Same with his actions.
I think you'd be better off cutting off all contact with him. Don't even say "goodbye" or "we're finished!". Just ignore him from now on - he doesn't sound like anyone who's in any kind of committed relationship. You can do better.
Phil
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