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writes:We've been going out for 2 years and 1 month already but he'll be going to college in 3 days while I still need 2 more years of high school. He says he won't cheat on me because he loves me, and he could if he wanted to because he's had many chances in high school, which I know of, so he'd stop talking to the girls that'd say they wanted him. But I don't know anymore. Most of my family say that it won't last because people grow and fall apart when they're together since high school and things like that. And there's more temptation in college. What should I do? Should I see a future with this guy, or break up with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, jitz.com  +, writes (11 August 2011):
first of all if you trust him and love him than you got nothing to worry about... and 2ndly, dont listen to other peoples comments theyl just put negativity thoughts in your head which will give you doubts. dont do that. trust me im going trough the same thing... just love him
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 The temptation to cheat in college is not greater than in real life, in real marriages. It can be just as likely that girls cheat in high school so he could have the same worries. You shouldn't break up with him. Always give yourself one more option. It's too early to see the future. Your contact with him depends on how far his college is. You can't worry and question what he does every single day. It won't do any good. To keep the relationship going just be supportive of his dreams and ambitions.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (11 August 2011):
This is by far one of the worst relationship scenarios, because there is no "right" answer to it at all. The relationship has no real issues (I assume) but one person is moving away and the other can't move with them.Well, it all depends on how much either of you really NEED to have someone to date all the time and can hold out for 2 years.You need to make real plans. I think after 2 years of dating you may want to talk about marrying when you are legal or even (if the laws permit it in your state and your parents approve) before then. Is he coming back for holidays?I'll tell you, rings on your fingers will be the best guarantee that you both won't go astray. If you are both not ready for marriage, then you have to ask yourselves if you really want to hold out for each other.I think you have reached a make-break point. You are stuck in "maybe" and a firm decision to either break up or get married will turn this into a "yes" or "no" situation.Even some of the worst outcomes are better than not knowing what will happen. Be strong.
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