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Should I respond or was she giving me the brush off?

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Question - (14 April 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 15 April 2015)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, I met a girl nearly a month ago we met at a party and we've been exchanging messages ever since.

She has been on holiday and came back to start a new job. I asked if she wanted to meet up again this week and she said sure what time etc.

Well I replied and said perhaps end of the week/weekend. I got a reply from her yesterday and said that she has some pressure from new staff and that time was against her and said she would have to see how the week goes.

She said the staff were a bit demanding.. I couldn't help feel as though she maybe brushing me off though. I have not responded to her message yet. Do you think I should? Or just wait it out to see if she comes back to me? Not sure what to do.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (15 April 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntHave you spoken with her on the phone in the last month? No?

Give her a call. Be light and bright and tell her you'd like to take her out for a meal to help her cope with the pressures of work.

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A male reader, Garbo United States +, writes (15 April 2015):

Garbo agony auntI'd respond by telling her something like "no problem, let me know when you get some time" then keep chatting. If she blows you off again then just drop her.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (14 April 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI'd just let her know to settle in with her new team and to get back to you with a time/date that works for her. THAT way you still seems interested but not too pushy.

IT's WAY too soon to try and "read her mind" or glean info from short messages.

If she doesn't get back to you within a week? I'd move along.

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A female reader, peteloevely United Kingdom +, writes (14 April 2015):

peteloevely agony aunti actually do think new unexpected things are happening in her life and she has no control over it at the moment, give her sometime, with a new job on the line i am sure she feels stressed enough already.

be casual and fun about your text and give her a few weeks to, she will either cope with the pressure and manage her job and meeting new people or she will crumble under pressure either way do not take it personally this is quite clearly not about you, she likes you that is why she has been chatting all this time with you, but then life happens doesn't it ?

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (14 April 2015):

N91 agony auntJust go with the flow. Keep chatting and see what happens, if you attempt to arrange another meeting and she blows you off again I'd probably leave it.

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