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Should I pursue this guy?

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Question - (24 March 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 24 March 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have a question. I met this guy when I was 14 and he was 25, just once and he said he liked me then. He was a friend of my uncle, and we first met at my uncle's wedding. Obviously,nothing happened then since i was underage. I never saw him again till last year, I'm 26 now and he likes me now too. We met again because he and my uncle got in contact again as they hadn't seen each other for a while and i went along when they met up. Obviously the age gap is okay now, but what do you think of him liking me then and now,since i was underage the first time he said he liked me?

He wants to go out with me now, he even says he would marry me!

Some of my family have known him for a long time,and they all say he is a really kind person,and isnt the sort of person who would mess someone about.

He has told all his friends about me,and i heard he didnt really have a proper girlfriend when he was younger.He mentioned that his mum isnt very well,and that all his brothers and sisters are married.I'm not sure if that means anything.He says he thinks i'm a lovely person too and that i'm sensible.

I recently found him on facebook too, and i noticed that he put that he was looking for friendship, dating and a relationship on there, and that he also went out with someone else a while ago. I knew that because it said on his page that he was in a relationship with someone, on his wall, but then a while later, it said he was single again. I haven't seen him for quite a while. I sent him a message on facebook though to say i had just found him on there, and he asked who the guy in my profile photo was ( it was my brother ). when i told him it was my brother he said sorry i thought it was someone else. i told him that i dont have a boyfriend and he said well why dont me and you have a serious relationship, i still think loads of you babe , and he put some kisses on the message. I have hesitated about going out with him becasue 1. I haven't had much luck with men and have been hurt a lot and 2. I'm not sure if he genuinely likes me or not. He has asked me out lots of times. He keeps saying how he ahs liked me for a long time, although i'm not sure if he even remembered me during the years that we weren't in contact. What do you think ?

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A female reader, daniellelittle United Kingdom +, writes (24 March 2010):

well how long ago did you re-meet him??

i think that before getting into a full relationship with him, maybe you should spend a lot of time with him and see what he's like over a longer period of time...

i once got into a relationship with a guy who i didn't see very often. obviously, once we were in a relationship i saw him a lot more but he just ended up annoying me coz i didn't know what spending so much time with him would be like.

spending more time with him would also help to see if he does genuinely like you

all my luck xx

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A male reader, TimmD United States +, writes (24 March 2010):

TimmD agony auntI'd be very cautious if I were you. How well does he even know you? He's already asking for a serious relationship or marriage? Age difference alone isn't that big of a deal, but with all of the other pieces together it just seems like it's not something you should get involved in. That's my opinion, at least....

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A male reader, natureboy227 Ghana +, writes (24 March 2010):

It is good to seek advise on whether to give in or not.To me I would say don't give in soonest because he is a type of guy , who only finds pleasure in every corner he finds himself. Make sure you study him and his ways cos some guys do everything possible to make you happy - just to have access to your pants and then show you the beast in them.

Follow your heart and make sure your feelings is not deceiving you cos you have weak emotions.For

Him to say all his siblings got married with exclusion of him, its a flimsy liar cos he doesn't want to tell you the truth.MY SIMPLE ADVISE IS STUDY HIM FOR SOMETIME AND INVESTIGATE ABOUT HIM BEFORE MAKING A DECISION COS MARRIAGE IS ETERNAL. GOOD LUCK

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