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Should I pluck up the courage and say "hi, it's been ages..."?

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Question - (17 April 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 20 April 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Basically, about two years ago, i met this guy Conor on facebook through some friends. we got talking and we became fairly good friends, and our conversations were funny. he would tell me Love you xx at the end of almost every comment etc, and he always helped me out when i needed him. i was falling for him.

I came across a bit too keen however, as i talked to him a lot more than he talked to me. I think i may have been embarassing!! But he always said we should do something and meet up, and i always tried to confirm something but it never happened. I would see him in town, and it would be very awkward, like a Hi Hello sort of thing.

He became friends with some of my other friends, and we grew further apart. They knew i liked him and it must have caught on etc. About 7 months ago i got teased by his friends, and so i came clean, even though our conversations now had become quite short and awkward. He simply replied, oh okay haha. yeah the others told me. And logged off.

I was quite upset, i was not expecting him to reciprocate the feelings as i am way out of his league, but at least a kind Thanks for letting me know, i had a feeling but i know it takes guts. I am sorry i dont feel the same way, but we can still be friends if you want.

I told him that i hope things dont become awkard. He never replied, and i havent spoken to him since even though i have seen him several times it has been awkward silence and he ignores me completely.

The other day i was going through old messages and found our conversations. i simply miss him. I dont want to fall for him again, it hurt too much. I just miss our conversations, they were very easy going and funny and i was just myself. I am so sad he couldnt see past my not amazing looks, but still remains very good friends with my so-called friends. It really hurts me.

The question is, should i just pluck up the courage and act cool and just say on facebook Hey its been ages, obviously last time we talked was a little awkward haha. How've you been?

or should i carry on completely ignoring him as if i never knew him. He seems to be doing fine wihtout me, and i am sure he has had many laughs with his friends at my expense. I feel like he doesnt deserve me, but at the same time, i just wish things were back as they were when we were just friends. Here are some examples of how he used to tlak with me:

ahaha

he sed tht about me!

i swer im gna fukin break his neck man

such a lil sly c*nt

ooooooo well its petty and pathetic

bit like him

c*nt

bt i lav u soooooo

x

hah naaaa mate u jst simply copy my bars

ahaha naaaaaaaaat im such a lil sly fly guy on tht one

hahaha

u areeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee pre

so shaup

immmmmm off naaaaaaaa

leave me smin nyceeeee

ahehehe

u av a ball

whilst ill be hme recovering to get smashed if u can work tht out

ahah we have to meet soon anyway jose

n get lils dwn

ahah

love you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

u so areeeeeeeeeeee

hotub party 2nite

thorpe park tomos

results thur

london fri

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

cramned my week up

eeeeeeeeek

im off naaaaaaa

gta russel up sme lunch

love u mre

durrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

i cant hold my breth for tht long

hhaha

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thank you very much for your response!

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A female reader, daisy_doll Canada +, writes (17 April 2010):

I was once in a similar situation. And my best advice. Move on. The fact that he backed out so quickly, and that he has not tried to resume contact. It ended unfortunately. Keep the happy memories, but continue forwards to bigger and better things.

Good Luck :)

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