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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Is it wrong to say how you feel? I've posted before about how a good friend of mine ignores and doesn't reply when something goes wrong and never makes an effort to initiate conversations after an argument. We hooked up a couple of times and I've had feelings for him. He is really bad at communication and will ignore my Msgs if I bring up something I don't like. It's more like I'll type 5-6 paragraphs and he will reply in one sentence to the most irrelevant part. Our misunderstandings grew so much over past 3 years because of this. It's always me?!! And I never expect things like I'm his girlfriend. I know I'm just a friend but is it wrong to react when he cancels on me last min, ignore me when I'm in a very bad phase, lie about where he is etc?? We used to flirt a lot and I think speaking up for myself wasn't wrong. How can I let someone treat me like a doormat? This time again I reacted when he lied, he didn't reply or apologize for 15 days till I messaged again!!! I messaged him that I think I'd rather go back to being just friends without the sex part and apologized for being so harsh! I apologized! I said I'm not his gf, shouldn't have reacted but his attitude is way too immature etc..again I typed paragraphs just to get a one line response that - there are always two sides of the stories so I didn't get into it otherwise we would fight more. That's it! No reply to anything else. I said it's always me who makes an effort, if I start behaving his way, we would stop being in talking terms. No reply to this as well! He just asked how I'm doing. Am I wrong to vent out my feelings? My friend said I come off as some poor girl dying for his attention and he doesn't give a fuck. Is that true? I said what I felt. Did I do something wrong in being totally honest about how I feel? I don't care if he doesn't give a fuck. Why should I put up with someone's bullshit. I'm sick and tired of trying to make things normal. I won't contact him for sure now but I feel weird about what my friend said. I don't want to come off as some poor girl chasing him. Not true. No friend would put up with that behavior. He didn't open my Msgs for 2 days when he knew I was crying and my dog died at the same time. And I was alone stuck in his city. I msgd him again after all this to make it "normal" and "friendly" cause we have been friends for long and he is nice to me when things are fine.Why is it wrong to give someone a piece of your mind? Or confess how you feel? Especially to someone who was always there to text me when it came to sexting but ignore otherwise?
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reader, N91 +, writes (25 April 2017):
 The real question is why are you wasting your time on this guy? I don't see what you're getting out of this 'friendship'. All you do is get ignored, get mad and then tell him you're annoyed. What's the point?
Forget about him, block him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2017): It is definitely OK to speak your mind, ,but I do agree with your friends you do sound like a bitter girlfriend how ever this man also has no respect for you he wants the benefits but not the friends don't let him use you ...just leave it now and move on with your life and if he msgs you just be polite keep it light don't give in to him and give him sex he's just using you and has no respect
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