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writes:Most of the girls in my home town only see me as a friend by this stage of my life, Any that i managed to be romantically involved with never lasted longer than 2 dates. By logic I am clearly the problem here. I'm too nicey nice and can't be the cute and smooth and cheeky that girls here seem to want. I have better success in places far out of town. Should I uproot my life and go elsewhere with a clean slate? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (8 July 2016):
 You are still young, do you live in a small village with little population? I am sure there are plenty of girls that you have yet to meet, you don't need to uproot your whole life just to try and find love, also if you think you are the problem well then work on your self esteem.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (8 July 2016):
If you feel the problem is you...then what are you moving from?? You cannot move away from yourself...and no matter where you go, you will still be bring the problem with you.
Being nice in not a problem for any woman. Having a direction in life is very important to a woman, and will make them look twice.
Example...Let's say you are driving a car with a female passenger. You are looking for a particular place to eat. However, you keep getting lost. What do you think her mood is going to be like??
If you know where you are going, where to find a parking spot, and make the whole thing "smooth", she would be in a great mood...yes?
Same thing for a man in life. If you are fumbling around without a purpose, no woman will take you seriously. Have a plan, and one that will make any woman happy to be with you, as a good man, respected man, a good provider, a great father to your kids, and greater husband to your wife.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 July 2016):
 No, you should wait until both you and the local girls mature. It's not at all uncommon to not have had a relationship yet at your age. But by all means, if you want to move, do it. Just don't fool yourself into thinking this will change once you move somewhere else, because you will still only be a teenager, and teenage girls elsewhere will still be teenagers too. Wait a few more years for some maturing to have taken place. Watch the change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2016): Not unless you benefit in other ways. School, a decent job, and a safe place to live.
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reader, Deeksha  +, writes (7 July 2016):
 Well this is nothing as big as a reason to leave the town but not a bad idea either. Though love happens on it's own but in your case it seems to be a little time taking. So if you have any job opportunities or as per your age group any study opportunities, do move to the city but make sure it's just not because you are single. As in this age you will go through frequent agitations of these kind but that shouldn't provoke you to take drastic steps. May be you could brief out about your previous dates and rather make some changes in your approach so that you don't have to find love but rather love finds you back.
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