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writes:i'm in love with this guy i've know since i was 15, we started dating in September and after a month, he broke up with me because he still had some feelings for his ex who he left 2 months before our relationship because his ex was sleeping with a girl a week after they broke up. He also wants to try to be independent and "enjoy being single." but he still says he loves me, and stays the night at my place and sometimes a few days at a time. I'm lost. I love the time i spend with him and i can tell he does too, it's not like we have little to nothing in common, in fact it's the entire reason i started dating him. He's my first boyfriend, and i've been in 5 relationships before him, all of which were girls.He tells me he isn't going to sleep with anyone else but me, but i've been cheated on by two different girls, and so my trust in my partners is very slim, if not non existent in that category. But i do trust him, and i do believe him, I'm just nervous.So after all my ranting, my question is: should i wait for him to be ready for a serious relationship, or should i try ot move on and find someone else?
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 he doesn't know what he wants which means you will be messed about by him, you KNOW what YOU want so leave him alone and maybe someone who WILL treat you properly will come along
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Usually I would suggest moving on but then a thought occured. Why rush something like this? You have known him since you were fifteen and only recently have you started dating. Moving on so quickly may cause unecessary tension between the two of you. Why not wait a little longer, perhaps a month or two since you two still spend a lot of time together already. Give him time to realize that he actually feels something and that perhaps he actually WANTS a serious relationship. But these things cannot be rushed nor should they otherwise later on, problems may occur.
It is good that you place such trust in him, do not be afraid. Enjoy your time with him and soon enough the answer should become clear.
I hope that helps.
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