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Should I make the first move second time around?

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Question - (24 June 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 29 June 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hey everyone. I joined a dating site back in Jan. and had just got chatting with a nice guy but he did inform me he was leaving the site because he was going to see how it would go with someone. I’m still on the site and recently he's come back on. I know he’s looked at my profile but hasn’t messaged me ,( I have different pic ) I don’t expect him to remember me or message me but should I message him ? the reason I ask is first time round 1, he could have just been polite to me and then just hid his profile so I couldn’t see him anymore. 2. He’s not interested but doesn’t want to be mean about it so chooses not to message even though he knows who I am. 3. He just doesn’t remember me . I am not the most confident of people, don’t date a lot either and I don’t want to come across as desperate (I’m not) and in his face. But because we got on well first time round but didn’t act on anything as he left the site, is it worth sending a message again? If so what should I put? I’m not the best at saying things like, 'hi remember me'. I am also looking at other people and messaging them. I’m not keeping all my eggs in one basket.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (29 June 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntSend him a message there is no harm. If he turns you down at least you know you tried and you are not left wondering.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2017):

Just MSG him once ...ask him how he is

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (24 June 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntLife's too short to look back one day with regret. You will never know if you don't ask. In your shoes I would just message him saying "Heh, did it not work out then?" and see what he comes back with. He might just be polite and not take things further, in which case you have your answer. At least you tried. You never know. Your contact may just start something.

Good luck.

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A female reader, NORA B Ireland +, writes (24 June 2017):

First of all while on site talking to you ,he left the site,telling you he was going to work it out with someone.Now he is back on site....and viewed your profile,but did not mail you.I would not consider it a good idea to mail him first...because he may not answer you.If he wishes to contact you he will Would be wise to leave it up to him.Move on with your life.He may have lots of just friends on site.So keep mailing other people.and as you stated.Your not keeping all eggs in one basket...very very wise .Best luck.NORA B.

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