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Should I make a move on my crush?

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Question - (19 March 2017) 5 Answers - (Newest, 29 March 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, anonymous writes:

does anyone have any experience with those kinds of guys who are really clever, not very masculine and all their friends are girls but they're still straight, and the signs that they like you, because I'm really into a guy like that and I feel like the signs that theyre into you are different from most guys? he says my name a lot and his pupils get very big when he looks at me i heard these are signs? i just want to know if i should make a move because hes amazing

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (29 March 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntMake a move yes, and let us know how you get on!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2017):

Personally I would never use the phrase 'just the two of us' when trying to chat and casually ask someone out. It sounds a bit heavy to me, but I can overthink things, so maybe that's just me. I think I would talk about a film around him and say 'I'd love to see (whichever film), but I can't find anyone who wants to go see it with me.' Something like that where he can jump in knowing that you will probably say yes.

Good luck.

I have been with a man btw whose friends were all women and I could see just by the way they interacted that there was nothing more than friendship going on. So if that's the case with him, don't worry. And yes he's special too, so give it a go :-)

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A male reader, Phil052 United Kingdom +, writes (19 March 2017):

Phil052 agony auntI think you should make a move, yes! A lot of boys at your sort of age are not hugely confident around girls (unless they are just friends) and he sounds like he might need a bit of encouragement, or at least a sign that you are interested. There are no guarantees of course, he might just see you as a friend, so you have to at least bear in mind that you might be disappointed, but there is nothing wrong with a girl making the first move. Good luck!

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (19 March 2017):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntYCBS is right - can you handle all of the female friends? If not, move on because he shouldn't have to give them up to have a girlfriend.

Make a move, but don't be too pushy. Give him a simple, no pressure date option and it's up to him if he takes it.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (19 March 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntBefore you decide whether you would like to be in a relationship with this guy, ask yourself how comfortable you will be with his many girl friends. Are you secure enough in yourself to be relaxed about him having all these female friends? If not, then don't even think about going there as that is unlikely to change or, if he drops his female friends to please you, HE will not be happy and your relationship will not last.

If you are ok with his friends, then you should absolutely try to push yourself forward as girlfriend material. What have you got to lose? My only word of caution would be, take it slowly and subtly. Sounds like he could spook easily. Why not suggest going to see a film together, or a having a coffee, saying something like "we never seem to have time for a chat, just the two of us". See where it goes from there.

Good luck.

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