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writes:I'm 18 and a virgin. My boyfriend of the same age is not a virgin. We started going out a month ago, and we were friends before that. I'm leaving in September for university, and we agreed at the beginning that we would not do long distance. We've been moving pretty fast, and I'm not sure if I should have sex with him. He's been patient asking if I'm ready, and my body really wants to have sex with him. But it's my first time and we only have another month and a half together. I just don't want to regret it. Will it make breaking up at the end of summer harder to do? What would you do? Is losing your virginity really that important? Basically, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Virginity is the best gift you can give it to your husband.
I think you should keep it untill you have a serious relationship which can lead to marriage.
I wish you the best
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reader, holly123  +, writes (19 July 2009):
the way i look at it is, you know him you trust him your body feels ready, you might go to uni and completely regret not having sex with him. you dont want to lose it at uni to someone you dont know, trust.
do what you thinks best, if your ready xx
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 first off loosing your virginity isnt that important in canada any way kno will beleive your a virgin any way and if you tell them there just going to want to have sex with you more, if you go to college a virgin your probably going to loose it to some senior while your drunk at a party and wont even remeber i think its muthc better to have your first time with your hometown bo, even though your saying good buy yu can make it fun and romantic a great way to cap off your last summer of childhood if you dont have any particular reason religion etc for not loosing your virginity im gonna say go be with that boy
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reader, sexi suga +, writes (17 July 2009):
personally sweetie, sex to me isnt merely sex, its a physical and very intimate bond between two people who really love each other... though living in todays world it has lost alot of the values it used to have...
if you are not planning to be with each other wh would you want to share that bond with someone just for the sakes of it. thats not what sex should be about at all. have sex out of love not just out of pressure. sex will be much better if you love the person... but at the end of the day its ur decision....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): What would I do? Well if it was me, I wouldn't have sex with him. I do think that it will make it all the more difficult to say goodbye when the time comes. And the fact you are doubtful about whether to do it or not suggests that you are in two minds about the whole thing, and if you did sleep together, you could regret it.
It is entirely up to you though. I would say just think hard about it. Think not just about what your body wants now, but about the future too, and how you might feel if you slept with him, or not. If you think you would be okay, then there is nothing to stop you. But if you are unsure whether you could handle the emotions that will come with it, then it might not be the best thing for you to do.
Good luck with your decision. x
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