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Should I let my wife be impregnated by my best friend?

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Question - (29 December 2008) 14 Answers - (Newest, 22 December 2010)
A male United States age 26-29, *heman writes:

I'm totally in love with my girlfriend for about 5 years! I love her and I always have all these years! She is a really sexy girl! very fair skin and blue eyes! However, she is a very sexual driven girl but yet very conservative. She wants to have a baby with me so bad and so do I. However, I can't have babies because of my sperm count. In that case, she said she would like to get a donor and do it artificially.

Here is advice I need. One of my best friends have always found her very attractive. We have even skinny dip before with him and my girlfriend. When we do so, we even touch each other in a kinda of fun way. I always make love to her in front of him. I let her walk naked around the house when he is there. In that case, I would like that donor to be my best friend. I want him to sleep with girlfriend though. I want her to feel pleasure by him. In other words, i don't want to to be artificially. I want my wife to sleep with him. I want my wife to have a baby of his. Should I go for it?

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A male reader, jbl2010 United Kingdom +, writes (22 December 2010):

I would let them conceive together you love her so why not let her enjoy herself, give them a weekend together and surely she'll get pregnant with him, and if the worst does happen and they get together and drop you atleast you know she will be happy and thats what she wanted i would do any think to make her happy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009):

I'm tempted to go with Ted-ster but only becuase you have upgraded her from girlfriend to wife in your post. Did you get married while writing this? This sort of inconsistency makes me doubt the authenticity of this post.

~Sy.

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A male reader, rickyletsher Australia +, writes (23 July 2009):

You should definitely let this happen... they've already seen each other naked and if there's been physical contact and obviously they have no problem with physical contact in front of you.

My wife is still having regular sex with her ex-boyfriend and would like to have his baby before having mine. He's in another town so when she's with him they spend a lot of time together, I encourage this. The only difference with us is that the ex doesn't know that I know.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009):

A similar situation happened to me.But first let me explain, to me, my wife having sex with another man is as exciting for me as watching her masturbating herself, except that in this case the guy also receives pleasure as a by-product. Anyhow, my wife had been having sex with my friend from work for a while, and it had gotten to the point where he would on some weekends sleep over with my wife,and I would sleep in the sofa, to let them enjoy themselves. One saturday or sunday afternoon my wife was laying down in bed and i laid down next to her, she she rolled over on her side looked at me and said, that i had better start looking for excuses now, to tell my family, in the event she had a blond blue eyed baby. I think I said "Oh" or something like that, and she said that her period was almost three weeks late, and she thought she was startig to get morning sickness. She said that the only man she had really passionate sex with was with ----, and that both would almost always cum together when they had sex.

And sometimes she would even doze off with him on top of her after he had had an orgasm in her and she would not immidatley clean herself.......

I asked her if she had informed him that she might be preagnant from him, and she said no, that she had not. I asked her not to tell him, because if he knew, he might feel he had a hearsay in the childs future, and she agreed that she would never tell him. I also asked her if anyone else knew and she said that she had only told her sister, and her best friend, however, they both knew that we had a sort of open marrage and that I permitted my wife to have sex with other men......

About a week later, I dont know if she took anything or did anything, but she had gotten her period and told me that she was not pregnant.....

And so ended the excitement and expectation.

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A female reader, michele21 United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

michele21 agony auntumm i would say where did you come from?? you let her walk around naked in front of your friend geezzz i mean what kinda guy does that and what gurl would disrespect her self in that manner....i wouldn't do it i don't think i could let someone i love have sex with my best friend let alone share something so amazing togther i don't know thats kinda a weird situation

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009):

It is great to have a close friend ready to lend you a hand in conceiving a child.

However, did you ever think about the awkward position of the child when he/she is grown up enough to realize the weird fact of having two fathers; the way of reconciling him/her to the idea without putting at risk his mental health; the obvious necessity to keep it secret from his/her friends as a skeleton in the cupboard.

Besides, are you really infertile? The male infertility can be caused by Bilateral Aplasia of Vas Deferense or by deletions in the Y chromosome. Of these, only AZF A deletion is hopeless . The healthy sperm cells could be taken directly from the testicles and introduced into the body of your wife. Another option is to make in vitro fertilization.

Something could be done to your wife too - to make her a better match to you. Consult an authority in the male infertility.

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A male reader, roadman United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2008):

roadman agony auntWell this is simple,if she can't get a kid out of you then if she wants a kid she'l have to get it out of someone else,if she wants to be a mother at some stage then she going to need a guy who can fire live shots..its never going to be up to you..Shes always likely to bounce on as your only in your teens anyway..so don't get to hooked or you may be in for a shock!

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A male reader, Ted-ster United States +, writes (30 December 2008):

This can't be a sincere question.

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A female reader, mesugarbabe United States +, writes (29 December 2008):

I wouldn't do this for a lot of reasons. If you do are you and your wife perpaired for a dispute over who will rais this child. He may fight you for this in court and you need to think about and bring this unborn child first. He may be totally agreeable at this point but after he sees this child he helped produce will he feel the same. The save, sure, way to handle this would be to have the speam come from an unknown course. So you can keep you friend and not risk looseing the child. Plus you need to think about the friends, family members as they may not be of any support in this descision you are making. Hope you make the right choice for your family.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008):

No don't do it! You may very well lose your girlfriend. They might decide to just have a baby together and drop you. You say you love this girl why would you do that then. Get artificial insemination it's better. your gonna lose her

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008):

i would say....NO! this guys likes (likes likes likes) ur girlfriend, most people would keep her away from him BUT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! u want her to sleep with him..i mean WTF!

Also dont u think that ur friend and girlfreind might get closer...i mean after all it is his baby...i would get it dun artificially, but you should consult your GF and friend....GD LUK!

xxxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008):

Sounds to me you already crossed that line. Problem is, they may carry on the affair once the one time sex is over. If their both attracted to each other, it's very likely it may happen again and they won't be telling you.

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A male reader, Replacement Canada +, writes (29 December 2008):

Replacement agony auntI'm pretty sure it's not your decision to make, it is between the two of them. Ask her and see if she wants to. Beware though, things will be very complicated afterwards

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A male reader, a_decent_1 India +, writes (29 December 2008):

a_decent_1 agony auntNO.. !!

It would create problems.. !! What would you do if your wife decides to be with your Friend after the baby is delivered..? He'll be the DAD and you would be nobody.. !!

Get an artificial done.. !! These things break relations and I still cannot digest that you let a guy see your wife nude and have sex.. !!

G'day

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