A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid or people on the web,I still like my former instructor. I still talk to him and I am planning to go visit him during his office hours, but I haven't gone to his office hours for about four weeks because I've been busy and didn't want to take up all his time. But when I did go to talk to him, we had a nice and honest conversation. He was the one to invite me to his office hours after we had had conversations through email that I initiated; we talked about certain problems I had been having with school and family. So we've developed a nice and sincere friendship. The problem is that I still have feelings for him, and I know that they won't easily fade away. But I know that it would be nice to have him as a good friend, and I know that I am capable of doing that. I'm not the flirtatious type at all and so I can see myself not sharing my feelings for him. There is also the problem of him being 14 years older than me and that he used to be my instructor; and I am also not sure that he shares my feelings. I am sure that he isn't married and I know that the policy at my college doesn't prohibit relationships between students and staff that don't share a student-teacher relationship. Do you think it would be better for me to share my feelings for him or to just wait a little longer and maintain my friendship with him to see if my feelings fade away?
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (25 March 2011):
 I would just maintain a relationship, maybe flirt a bit with him every once in awhile and see if he flirts back. 14 years is a large age difference, don't you want someone who is around your age who you would have more in common with?
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