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Should I just forgive and forget? He really hurt me and he hasn't even apologized...

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Question - (15 February 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

There's this outgoing guy I've had a pseudo-relationship with for the past 6 months-- nothing physical but we click really well.

We got into an arguement and he went for a really low blow (even according to some bystanders). I've been ignoring him since the incident; I'm just tired of his two-faced attitude, even though he means well.

He seems to be trying to show he's sorry without ever saying he's wrong; he'll "like" things on facebook that I do that have NOTHING to do with him, or even copy them sometimes.

I'm just pissed because if I had done that to him, I would have AT LEAST apologized. He can be really shy around me, but we've known eachother for 6 months so I think he should be comfortable enough to apologize... I don't mean to be rigid, but what he said just went way too far....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011):

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Thank you both so much for the kind words and great insight :) You guys really made me feel better about the whole situation, given this is NOT the first time he's been obnoxious; I've been too accepting of his rude behavior one too many times.

You guys gave me brilliant advice, and I'll definitely take it. Thank you so much!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011):

And if he comes back acting as though nothing happened, not even acknowledging how much of a disgusting jackass he was/is with you, rip him a new asshole with the truth and throw him out your life for good. I had to do that with my ex and it was amongst one of the best things I've ever done, because I live a very positive life and my ex was doing nothing more than making my life negative. I'm happier now that my ex is out the picture. I always surround myself with positive people and my ex was not fitting in my positive world. It will be hard at first detaching only because you are caught up in the dysfunction that you were manipulated into but once you throw out the negativity you will never allow it back in. Remember it's all about your life being happy and free of other peoples bs even your ex's. You will be okay and definitely better off. I promise you.

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A female reader, Didi O United States +, writes (15 February 2011):

Don't respond until he says he's sorry. You just have to be patient. if you take him back without this, he'll do even worse next time because he knows that you'll let him get away with it. He needs to accept responsibility for his action and he must do this and think to do this all on his own, you must not hint this or speak to him. He must admit his fault so he learns how much he messed up. it is hard to say sorry someties so doing This will let him know and respect your boundaries. Stay Strong, this is where you help this guy know how to treat you.

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