A
female
age
13-15,
shy but sweet
writes:This really nice boy is in love with this girl. The problem is that the girl treats him like dirt and snogs other boys in front of him. This boy is also my closest friend (who I secretly fancy). Should I intervene and tell him my feelings for him or leave it in case our friendship is damaged?Please help!! Reply to this Question |
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female
reader, shy but sweet +, writes (14 July 2007):
shy but sweet is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for all ur help everyone. we are back together now!!
thanks again!!
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female
reader, love-him  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi babe, i think you should intervene.. and i would want to know also.. I hope i helped. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): I also agree with Flower girl and yummy mummy, I know first hand there wise words are true,in a simier situation myself when I was 14 and it was seen as jealousy and my friends turned against me it wasnt good I lost my crush and my best friend in the process obviously I learned from this to become a peacemaker,
You can be there for your friend though, and the way this girl is treating him is unfair but I guess shes doing it too feel populur with the boys she has some growing up to do I think If you stay nice to everyone you can be a good
friend in this tough situation,
I know you have feelings for him but he will see the truth for himself,
Take care xxx
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female
reader, YummyMummy +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Just be there for this guy when he needs you. He will evntually see this girl for what she really is. Right now he can't see what she's really like and won't thank you for bitching about his girlfriend. Be there for when it all falls apart.
I agree with danielpew about the shooting the messenger. Everytime I try to tell someone something I feel they should know I get yelled at and I've stopped doing it now. I hate seeing people get played especially people I care about. But they thank me more for being a ggod friend when it all goes wrong then if I tell them what's going on.
xxxxxx
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male
reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 July 2007):
 I agree with both posters. I would not let my friend be treated that way, but i would tell in a friend way and say hey need someone else. Or even help them see the light if there really stubborn or dont want to see the truth. But like danielepew said some people do shoot he messenger, so be careful.
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male
reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (4 July 2007):
 I agree with flower girl about the jealousy. But, I would tell him about the bad treatment. I wouldn't like that to happen to a friend of mine. However, be careful: remember that people sometimes shoot the messenger.
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female
reader, flower girl +, writes (4 July 2007):
 I personally think you just leave it as it is, if you get involved it could be seen as jealousy and taken the wrong way.
He will realise before too long what she is like and decide he does not want to be treated in this way, so i think you should just wait and be there for him when it all goes pear shaped.
Take care.xx.
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