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writes: I dated TJ during the summer. We had a good relationship and we had a lot of fun together. I was going away to school so I decided to end things. After Almost two monthes of guys here I realized that they just want to hook up and I'm not ok with that. I want a nice guy. I started to think about TJ again. I messaged him expecting a nasty message back. Instead he was excited to hear from me and wanted to talk. We have talked everyday for a week. He usually says cute thinks or picks on me, I know he is kidding. He goes to school at home which is 2 hours away from my school. I don't know if I want him back because of the horrible guys here of because he is a great guy. What should I do? Should I have him visit to see if we still have real feelings for eachother? Should I just be friends with him? Reply to this Question |
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reader, bellachic385 +, writes (1 November 2009):
bellachic385 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks! I don't plan on using him at all. I just want to see him to see if we still have it. If we don't then friends could work. I also don't know if he would do long distance. He says he'll visit so I hope he will soon so that we can figure out our relationship. It seems that he does have feelings. I think it's getting to the point where he needs to visit because I think that we are nervous about where this is going. Right now I suppose we are just flirty friends. But at anytime it could end or we could be in a relationship.
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reader, mutherh  +, writes (1 November 2009):
I don't see any harm in having him visit. As you say - you had a good relationship and had a lot of fun together. When you meet again you will know how you feel about him. As you say he is a 'great guy', maybe you've already answered your own question. But if you want to be just friends with him that's OK too - so long as you BOTH want to be just friends. It's cruel to use him if he has feelings for you.
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