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Should I go out on the date with second guy? I like them both!

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Question - (29 October 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 October 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 16-17, anonymous writes:

Hi I could use some help please,

So basically I recently moved schools in the last 2 weeks and meet this guy and we've been talking he's totally in love with me and I dunno how I feel back I want to go on a date and meet up with him before I think about dating him and he's really cute and basically the prefect guy.

So today I went skating and met this guy we both got on very well and we've been chatting tonight and he's really sweet and seems genuine guy he asked me on a date tomorrow and I don't know wether to accept or not?! I feel bad about the first guy and me and I want to meet up with him but would it be bad if I went on a date with both! I really don't know what to do can u help please thanks xx

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (30 October 2015):

You simply tell the both of them that you know they like you and you like them too. You can only see one boy at a time.

You should see the boy you met first. You give him a chance and see what it is you really liked about him. In the meantime; the other boy is wondering how much you like him. You have to be honest and tell him that there is another boy that you met before him, and you really have to be nice to him. Don't try to see both boys at the same time. That will become a bad habit, and it leads to cheating and being deceitful. It will come back on you someday, and you will not like how that feels.

You can't like every cute boy you see. You have to like them one at a time. You're being greedy.

Like the boy who liked you first. That's usually the best choice. You simply think the other boy is cute; and now you want to forget about the one who showed you he really likes you.

Stop being conceited. The first boy is not totally in-love with you, he is honest about letting you know he likes you.

The other is just one you like because you think he's cute.

You will learn in time that the guy you want, is the guy who cares about you.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 October 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI have to agree. YOU do NOT have to commit to anyone, but SEEING two guys at the same time? Big no-no. And I would say the same if you were a boy.

TREAT others like you would like to be treated. Would you be OK with a guy seeing you AND another girl at the same time?

If you aren't SURE you want to date #1 then tell him. BE honest. OR tell him that you ONLY want to hang out at s friends, then HE can decide if he can handle being "just" friend or not. And don't worry #1 isn't in LOVE with you, he might be infatuated and have a crush on you, that is not love.

And don't go out with #2 two till you have told #1 and sorted out your priority.

At your age? You really don't need a reputation for dating multiple people at the same time.(again whether you are a boy or a girl is irrelevant here) .

I think you got a little carried away with having so many choices all of a sudden. And I get that, but... TAKE a moment and think. NOT just about yourself, but both guys as well.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2015):

Denizen agony auntThere's going to be trouble. At your age you can play the field but not two at the same time. Not only do the boys get upset when they find out, but it won't do your rep' much good.

You will find your love life much smoother if you take it one at a time.

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