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Should I go for it? Or just stay friends?

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Question - (31 January 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

There’s this boy he’s 18 and I am, we met a long time back, and we really got on. Gradually we became friends, and he took me out to restaurants, and movies etc…. We had a great time, and I always did with him for some reason. Then a feeling grew inside me and it was I liked him. But for so many complicated reasons I just shut out the feeling, and acted as normal towards him. Every time he sees me he smiles, he always wants to help me, a lot of times coming to my house as he’s been getting close to my family. He’s never fed up of me, always there in my worries. He’s got a nice personality, and really has a thing for jokes. He’s kind, soft and caring.

Some time after we were both called to the same wedding, I was related to the family and he was the man’s best friend, so we ended up coming together to the wedding. I could feel something about him, like I was secure and protected when he was there. Like he liked me to, but I thought I’m being silly, and imagining it. Anyways at the wedding he ended up telling me I look beautiful, and the way he said it was so like he was astonished in a good way. He told me I looked pretty. It was quiet busy at the wedding, and every time I needed help I ended up calling him. At times I caught him glimpsing at me, and starring at me.

End of the wedding day, there was no space in the limo and family cars apparently so I took a ride with him. When I got in the car my phone fell out my hand, so I bent down to look for it, while moving my hand around, (it was dark so couldn’t see anything) he said I’ll help finding it to, and also started looking for it, and his hand when on top of mine without realising, and we had one of them moments, I could feel the warm blood rush through my veins, and my heart thumping fast. It stayed like that for a minute or so, and he looked at me and got up saying sorry several times.

It was silent all the way through the journey, then the car stopped outside my house and I said bye, opened the door, and he held my hand and I closed the door and go what’s wrong, he goes I got to tell you something, and he told me he likes me, (my hand was in his hand with his other hand on top) And he goes he likes me really bad, me being around him made him realise he likes me a lot. My hand started shivering, and I stayed quiet, all of a sudden my hand was really warm, and he reached out to kiss me, (my heart told me yes and so did my mind first time they told me the same) our lips touched but I backed out, and said sorry several times, and told him he knows why I can’t.

anyways he held my hand once more and brushed his hand down my face, with his one hand held my head kind of and stroked my cheek with his thumb and said I know all the complications but I still want to be with you. I was shocked by it, and told him I like him. This time when I go out the car, he kissed me on my cheek.

My question is should I go for it, or leave it and be friends. is there something between us?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009):

There's definitely something between you two! I say you should go for it, you both seem to have the same feelings towards each other :)

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A female reader, nearlydivorced United States +, writes (31 January 2009):

GO FOR IT! It seems like you tow could really have something, and if the feeling is mutual between the tow of you why waste it. You've been friends for a long time, you know all the other ones goods and bads, so there are no suprises. I think relationships have a better shot at lasting if you were friends first.

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