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writes:hi, basically im 15, and im seeing a guy and hes very open about sex and hes not a virgin. i am and hes kind of asked about if i would and i kind of want to but am really like nervous about it all and how its all going to work lol.theres no point saying all the underage stuff as no one really listens to it anyway. i dont really know what i am asking here just what do yous think and could anyone mabye make me feel not so nervous about it all lol i know its only natural to be nervous thothanks xxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): 15 is not too young for sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Thank you , but you say our advice were useful, but its one thing to hear and another to listen, I know it will be difficult but darling its worth it! Good luck and i hope you make the right decision.
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reader, poppy. +, writes (16 November 2009):
poppy. is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you to everyone , the guy is sixteen for who ever asked, the poster nae nae your advice was not stupit it was really useful.
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reader, imogen1068 +, writes (16 November 2009):
 i would say dont do it just yet. if you rush into this you will only regret it. i regret losing my virginity at 15, im 17 now but i still regret it. its best to lose it to someone you trust and love, take it from me because i wish i could turn back the time, its my biggest regret. this boy could only be using you for sex, he might not be but you never know. but if you really think hes worth it, then do it, but if you dont know him so well then i wouldnt if i was you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): I agree totally with the anonymous reader, you dont want to hear it but you got it any way, dont rush to lose your virginity, people say these things because they experienced certain things already, all in all its not worth it, just by the question you asked, says you are not ready for sex. Does giving up your virginity to the first guy that ask really make sense to you, trust me honey sex is the best with someone you love, and im not talking about 15 year old love, besides you dont love him, just from this question, you can tell,at this time it feels like it will last forever, and maybe when you have sex things will get better and better but most times it doesnt, guys think differently than girls, they want sex from where they can, while you thinking of giving it up he's thinking of how much he can get. Let me ask you 1 thing wat if you have sex with him and he starts to avoid you afterwards?? wat will u do, or do u think he will love you forever since u gave him ur virginity, just food for thought. young lady respect yourself and in return others will respect you, and get a man who respects u, ur feelings/wishes and your decision. What kind of guy ask a young girl as urself to have sex??
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reader, lah mouw  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 I personally think you're too young. just because you've got a boyfriend and whatnot doesn't mean you have to have sex with them. Having sex at the wrong age causes a lot of problems and maybe even regret. I think you should wait until you gain a little more experience and get a little older, you may think you're ready now but you're not... believe me... I had sex when I was about 14 with my boyfriend and although we loved each other, it just wasn't the right time for either of us.
But if you do decide to have sex with this boyfriend of yours just make sure you use the right protection, make sure you're not doing anything you don't want to be doing and just be safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Its ok to be nervous, but if you have second thoughts dont! I'm not lecturing but you said you kinda want to, which also means you kinda dont want to also, which sounds like you just wanna do it to get it over with or to please your friend whatever the reason, listen sweetheart, do it when you really want to, not when you kinda want to, trust me it wont be fun, neither worth it if you kinda want to. When you really want to, it will just happen so you wont really have time to be nervous, so dont plan when you are going to that will make you more nervous, also from what you said this guy sounds more interested in sliding up inside you than you " he is very open about sex and he kinda asked" sounds like sex is a regular topic with him. Dont let him ask let it just happen when you dont kinda want to but want to. So please take my stupid advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): if you feel right with, go for it. my girlfriends only 14 and im 15 and weve had sex many times. i made sure she knew not to feel pressured, and she didnt and she loved it. after a few times tho cuz she was rlyyy tight so it took her a while, but ya go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): I think you are too young. 15 is not even legal as you know but there are good sound reasons for this! Also how old is this man? Is he close to your age or is he much older?From personal experience, I would say wait until you meet someone you totally trust and are not nervous with. Sex is great with the right person. I don't even remember my first time and I waited quite a few years before my second time just because it was so forgettable! I just really enjoyed my teens instead of having or worrying about sex. I had sex again when i found someone who I really liked and respected. This was in then in my late teens.And I can say no regrets.Why not wait. It is the only thing you own so keep it as long as you can before you give it away.Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Dont let anything happen that you dont want to
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