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writes:Okay RITE.I'm 13 :)Oh and don't mind my spelling, it's awful sorry. And i'm probably gonna come of as a bad person whos a slut and selfish but i tell it how it is :\This is kinda long but i just want everything covered.I realy liked this boy for two years on and off but we never knew till like october or somthing (well i never knew) and he asked me out and i was extremly happy.I got out of a three frigging month relationship with a very fridgid boy who i did absoulotly nothing with. They were kinda best freinds.... But i dunmped him for some other boy i liked who turned out to be a completeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee fucker. So i dumped the guy i will call tony haha and met up with the fucker and i got off with him little to fin out that the night before my best freind got poff wiht him. I didnt talk to her for afew weeks :)Okay after fucker that's were guy i go out with who i will call David. I was really happy with him at first but now i get frustrated with him all the time because he treats me like his freind not his girl freind and that pisses me off. Okay then theres this other boy who i will call Joe and i'm not gonna lie, he's a bit of a man whore.He's autistic aswell and apparently im the only person he can properly talk to but i doubt that. Probably just trying to make me feel special lol. I see him alot and modesty aside, he really fancys me. I kinda like him too. But he pisses me off cos he keeps on telling me to dump my boyfreind wich i would never do for him cos he's not worth it. So yeah theres Joe. Oh and also i like Joe because i can completly be who i am around him without him judging me, and if he does judge me he tells me straight out wich i really love. And we connect, we like same kinda movies we are both massive Bob Dylan fans and i can talk to him for ages without getting bored. He calls me up every day and when i cant talk out loud he texts me and there was this week where i lost my voice and he is amazinggggggg at guitar and he knows i love it when he plays it so he would just call me up and play for me, songs like 'Dont think twice it's alright', 'Across the universe and stuff like that. But i would hate to go out with him cos he gets around and his girl freinds rarley last more than 1 day.Then theres other guy number two wich i will call Callum. He's my really good freind, like one of my best freinds ive only known him for like 4 months though. He isnt a man whore but is extrmly forward and tried to get off with me a couple of times till he found out i had a boyfreind lol. But i really do like him.I will add i despise having boyfreinds... I dont like the responsibility. But i do like my current boyfreind.I just have a couple of social issues (nothing diagnosed or anything) and i dont paticurly like talking or being around other people exept afew of my best freinds occasionly. I only talk when i have somthing to say and i usually vocalise my anger to people as soon as i feel it but for some reason not to him.My question is 'should i dump him?'And it would be helpful if you could guideme on what to do after woulds because im terrible at making decisions.Thanks a million
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (3 January 2009):
 ~So many boys so little time.~ I know I sound like and old person now (cause I am one) but you should maybe take a break from boys.
Figure out what you want in a boy. Who you are. Then take your time getting to know a boy before jumping into anything - and when I say get to know - I sooo don't mean texting, Im'ing, Email or other crap but talk face to face - hang out, go see a movie, play scrabble, walk the dog.. Something that will help you "figure" the guy out and maybe yourself a little too.
I see so many teenage girls on here, who are JUMPING into "relationship" after "relationship" - And I just don't get it. You all seem so EAGER to please all these boy and you forget yourselves. It's a darn shame. Have loads of boyfriends is not what makes you you.
You put the words selfish and slut to describe yourself. Is that how you see yourself? Is that who you want others to see you?
I don't see you as either. I see you as a very confused young lady who is trying to imitate adult behavior without being an adult. Slow down hun, time flies fast enough as it is, don't rush thru it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): i dont think u should dump ur bf for someone else just try taalking to him tell him ur problems straight away.
wat im trying to say here is u shud do wat is more comfortable for u wat u think u shud do wat u feel like u wanna do
think wud u be comfortable with another girl being with ur bf and being more than friends because she had the guts to tell him or to show him wat she wants
and i think he might also want to act more like bf than like a friend but he might be scared to put u off by that my bf wanned to be closer to each other and i also wanned that i was the first one to do the big step because he was very scared that i wud dump him if he did anythng wrong wich i explained to him that i wudnt do that
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Sorry to have to tell you the scoop but young lady you have ALOT issues. You really need to distance yourself here from the guys and work on you! After all in your own words you don't want the responsiblity of a boyfriend. You are jealous of your best friend's relationship with *David. You think of all the guys as man whores it seems. Someone to Get off with and they are mostly getting off with many others as well. At 13 years of age the only thing you should be getting off of is the merry go round at the park.
Good grief girl don't you have any self respect here? Are you allowing these guys to strip you of your self-respect or it is just something you are doing on your own? Please get a grip on yourself here. It seems to me that you are trying hard to get noticed and want the guys to want you but what you don't even see is that you are really playing with fire and if you keep it up hon you are going to get burned.
You are looking for love or affection and believe me guys who are out there going from girl to girl won't have what you are looking for. Sooner or later you will run out of luck and wind up with some kind of disease or pregnant. Stop this behavior before things get worse with you. If you feel that you have some type of Social disorder talk to your parents and get help. If you keep doing all this running from guy to guy and such you are looking for serious trouble and you are bound to find it. It may turn out to be much more than you can handle. You tend to see the good things in a guy that really isn't good at all. They tend to be out there for their satisfaction and they won't be there for you in times of trouble.
I don't want this to sound like I am all against you. I know that things happen that can cause people to act irrationally. You aren't using your common sense here. Get out with some friends and forget about hooking up with any of these guys. Should you dump him? You should loose the thought of even attemping a relationship with either one of these guys. They are more likely to use you and walk off without any regret. You will be the one who becomes heartbroken,depressed and possibly sick or pregnant. Think about it and you will know the real answer to that question. GET RID OF THEM ALL!
Allow yourself time to grow up, don't waste your childhood worrying about sex, or getting off as you put it. You have a whole life to even think about sex. It really isn't all there is in a relationship. When you are older and more mature you will see the real difference. I PRAY that you get wise before anything bad happens to you and that you will stop trashing yourself by being used over and over. I would like to believe that you are a sensitive, and kind your lady who really isn't aware of what she's doing to her life. I hope that someone can help you to see and help you to get your life straight before you do anymore damage to your life. Talk about SOCIAL STIGMA, what a mess of one you are creating by living your life this way. I urge you to please stop and seek help. Stop being used, your actions can one day make you feel like you have been USED UP.
GOD IS WITH YOU LET HIM WALK YOU HOME and GIVE YOU COMFORT, you won't be finding any in the arms of the cads you are hanging out with now. My best to you and if I can help I will try my best. Sometimes we just need someone to talk to. Someone to share our feelings and help us to understand. Remember that GOD UNDERSTANDS and we here at DEAR CUPID will do our best to. That's why we volunteer to give advice in hopes that it will help someone thru their tough times in life.
God bless,
Blus_Angel
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reader, TalkingHelps +, writes (2 January 2009):
 No, David seems to be like the best. As you said aptly name fucker is a well...fucker for gettiong with best friends, Joe is really cooel and all but it's probably best to keep that relationship a friendship for a couple of years and Callum is your best friend so don't touch him
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reader, dasonras +, writes (2 January 2009):
"Should I dump him?" ---um, I dunno, should you? Really, you tell me.I'm not sure what your problem is as you are not clear. If you don't want to be with someone, then don't. But no one can really make that decision for you.
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