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*onelyxguy
writes:Hello i'm 19 and still a virgin. I got my first gf a few months ago but weve only met 5 times casue we live a little ways away. I'm nervous about sex being a virgin and all but she wants sex with me as soon as possilbe and threating to break up with me if i don't have sex with her. I am afriad of loseing her casue i don't have good social skills and am afriad i wont ever get another girlfriend. Should I do whatever she wants since I get to keep her? or what do i do?
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (16 March 2011):
You are 19, you have plenty of time. Just try to meet people and talk to people (not only girls but people in general). That will improve you social skills and make it easy to get a new girlfriend. Just try yo meet people without thinking you are looking for a girl. That's a good trick if you are shy. You will end up meeting a girl who's worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): Should've had sex with her m8t. Maybe you still can! Watch pleasantville cause that's what it's like.
On a more serious note, sucks about the breakup, and hope you're doing alright.
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reader, Lonelyxguy +, writes (15 March 2011):
Lonelyxguy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thnak you everyone i did break up with her....but now everything just seems to of went back to the way it was before i met her (which was very depressing ain't going into details on it) and i am just hopeing i do find someone i can love now
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Why does she want sex with you right away? Have you asked her? I don't think this sounds like a good idea to jump into something with her if she is threatening to break up with you. Believe me, you will find someone else who won't pressure you or threaten to leave you.
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reader, drew22  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 dude shes clearly not your gf, a real gf would never force you into doing something you dont want to do. And that fear you have of never having someone else is just your mind playing games with you. Just start socializing a lot more with other people (girls and boys) and dont be afraid to talk to any girl you like, just be yourself and funny and sensitive to them. after all, you are young and theres plenty of fishes in the sea. hope everything gets better with you.
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reader, Lonelyxguy +, writes (19 February 2011):
Lonelyxguy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy biggest fear is losing her and never finding anyone else. I am seeing that being with her isn't a good idea, but I'm afraid of never having anyone else ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): You should only do what you feel comfortable with. If you are not ready to have sex then don't. If she can't understand or except that then she is not worth it.You should never feel pressured to do something like this. Personally, I think you will know when you are ready, and if you have to ask for advice then it sounds like you're not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): I agree with 3yearapartlove. Discuss it with your partner, and tell her how you feel. Sex should only be done when you're BOTH ready. If sex is the only thing she wants, then you can safely get rid of her. No one should be with someone just for sex. If she can't wait for you to be ready, and is constantly pushing you, then you deserve someone better, and you'll find someone, don't worry. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): What do you mean by "keep"? She is not an object that belongs to you. She might move on once you give in. You never know. A person's true colors show through their actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): If she has already threaten you, that's RED FLAG. You're pressured to have sex with her. You're nevous. She won't listen or understand you. Move on. You don't want to regret that, trust me. If she's that horny, she probably already had done that to other guys as well.
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reader, Capri2 +, writes (19 February 2011):
If you want a proper girlfriend, there is bad news. She isn't here already. A girlfriend (who loves you) would never force you into sex. No way.This girl is anything but your girlfriend. In my personal opinion you have to make your mind here about a single thing. Do you want to loose your virginity with someone who doesn't love you? If you want this is your chance, don't let it go. As you won't have to pay for it. But don't let her fool you. There is no love here. If you want to wait for having your first time with someone you love, I would say that's a good idea.
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reader, 3yearapartlove +, writes (18 February 2011):
anyone who only wants sex is a bad partner in my opinion... but if you love her tell her your nervous to and get her to understand... if she doesn't then she's not good enough for you
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reader, dannn  +, writes (18 February 2011):
HAVE SEX!!!!!
(you won't regret it)
and on the serious side, communicate, tell her how you're nervous and I'm sure you'll get better with time.
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