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writes:Hello Aunts! I'm not sure if I'm in the right relationship. My bf and I have been dating for two years now. Sometimes I feel I love him very much while sometimes I feel I don't love him that much to get married to him. I broke up with him about a year ago but we got back together again. I broke up with him because I met a new guy whom I felt was what I really wanted and all that. Unfortunately he was still seeing his ex and I didn't feel comfortable with that at all. I broke up with him then got back with my ex bf. The problem now is that I don't think I love my bf enough to get married to him. He really wants us to get married and he has been putting so many many things in place so we could get married when I'm done with school. I feel scared to break up with him because 1.he hasn't done anything wrong to me. 2.he has a lovely family and we are really getting along well, his mom has been so nice to me. Something else that bothers me about him is that he has a little problem with his breathing, so I can hear him when he breaths. So I'm afraid he's gonna be the snoring when he sleeps and I don't think I can cope with that for a long time. he sweats a lot. So please what's the best advice you can give me? Should I break up with him? Should I continue with the relationship because he loves me and he family loves me. I'm so confused right now. Am I complaining too much?
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reader, shalley +, writes (28 April 2016):
shalley is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks so much. I appreciate your honest advices.
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reader, EFM94  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 You should definitely break up with him. Unfortunately sometimes you can just fall out of love with someone. It's natural and neither of your faults so don't feel bad!
Just inform him that unfortunately you haven't felt the way he feels about you for a while. If he is a decent bloke he will understand that it will be better for you both in the long run.
If you can't see a future with someone then you're both just wasting your time. Hope all goes okay!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 April 2016):
 Leave him. It is clear that you don't love him. It is best to make a clean break and move on with your life. Allow him to move on with someone who will give him the love he needs, while also allowing you to be with someone you love. Life is to short to settle for second best. Just because he and his family love you does not give you enough off a reason to marry him, it won't work.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 April 2016):
 He loves you, but you don't love him.
That sounds to me like an excellent reason to NOT get married, both in his best interest and in yours.
Some times you have got to be cruel to be kind, and I do not doubt that , if you leave him, at first it will be hard for him. But then, at some point he will realize that he made room for someone who can sincerely love his sweaty, snoring self as it is, while you could at best clench your teeth and tolerate him.
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