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writes:I have been in a relationship for 4 years, but last summer I got in a fight with my girlfriend and we broke up for a day, and on that day I kissed one of her friends. I feel really bad about it, especially since our relationship is going so well now. I have a feeling she's eventually going to find out..word will make its way around. I'm white and my girlfriend is Asian, and it has taken me soooo long to earn the trust of her and the rest of her friends. Should I just tell her or leave it in the past? I'm torn and guilty, and I'm sure her friends will tell her to leave me if they find out.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (14 April 2014):
 If word hasn't come around in a year's time, then maybe it'll stay safe. Why say something and ruin a potentially good relationship especially when you were on a break when you did something silly? Dont ever do something like that in the heat of the moment because you'll have your entire life to regret about it. As long as you learnt your lesson, that's punishment enough. Don't say anything to her and ruin things now; instead, be the best boyfriend that you can be and let the past be where it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2014): Ah yes, the old Ross and Rachel. It'll probably play out the same way.
What you need to decide, OP, is whether you not telling her is something that will ruin her trust more when she finds out.
I mean I'd personally find it much easier to get over an angry kiss when we were officially on a break than keeping it secret from me.
So decide which would break her trust more, the fact you did it, or the fact she found out from someone else. Base your decision on that and it'll be easy. I know my wife would be far more hurt I didn't tell her. She would not be okay with it either way, but I'd definitely stand a better chance if she didn't just hear it out of the blue someday from someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2014): You kissed one of her friends? That is such a slap in the face. If the issue comes up, confess. If it doesn't, let it fade into the past.
If her friend doesn't tell her, don't ruin a friendship. If her friend tells her; what choice would you have, but to come clean and face your punishment?
You can't undo what's already done. Leave it alone!
Stay the hell away from her friends. That could be taken so many bad ways, dude!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2014): A. You were on a break.
B. A kiss hardly constitutes cheating.
You might want to sweat it that you did it with her friend. But I doubt her friend wants her to find out any more than you do.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (13 April 2014):
Honesty? Don't believe the hype. Oh yeah that's a good idea, I'll tell my girl about how I kissed another girl as soon as we got into a fight. That will make her love me more! Some mistakes are just better to live with, and deal with.
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