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writes:I'm 16, gay, and in a crisis. I've got to know this guy from my school quite well. He was a sixth former when I was in year 9 and after he left school when I started year 10 for uni we got closer and we both discovered that we were both gay. Over the past 2 years we've become best friends and share everything with each other. Recently, since turning 16 I've realised i liked him more than a friend should and it took me a long time to realise this and since knowing I've been questioning it by seeing him in a way a friend should some days and some days question the actuality of our relationship. To this day im confused if i like him or not as I've never been able to recognise my emotions well it might help if we met but as i am in the closet. Skyping is the alternative. Tonight, we were talking when he told me that he loved me not as a friend should and is attracted to me. I told him that i loved him too but didn't say that i was unsure of it. But im sure i do like him at the moment but it quickly changes and i don't know why. I really care for him and don't want to hurt him so before it goes any further should i day im unsure. Cause we won't be able to meet for a year because of his year abroad for university so i can't se if i feel something for him when we physically meet. Should i come out so i can see him before he goes? Should i be worried about the 3 year age gap? Please Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): i think you misunderstood that i am the one younger than him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): I think you should wait the year out. He is too young to really be in touch with his feelings, and he should be focusing on school. You would be a distraction, and he has to keep his mind on his studies and not worrying about you. You'll be trying to reach him during the time he should be studying. You'll be lonely and always wanting to hear from him.Just stay in touch while he is away, and let him know how you feel when he is a little older, and really knows what being gay means. His young mind is still developing and you need to give him time to catch up with you. There may also be some legal problems, because of the age difference right now. It may upset his parents.He'll need a friend for support while he is getting adjusted away at school. Don't change things quite yet.
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