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Should I call my ex bf and give a New Year's greeting?

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Question - (30 December 2006) 7 Answers - (Newest, 31 December 2006)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago. He moved away and has a new girlfriend. I am dating now but I have still not met someone special. I will be going to the city that my ex lives in for a few days next week. I had no intention of contacting him but my sister said that I should call just to give new years greetings. I do not think this is a good idea and I am not even sure why. Any thoughts....all replies appreciated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006):

If you think it is not a good idea; don't do it.

Let him have his life separate of yours.

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A female reader, xNatx +, writes (31 December 2006):

xNatx agony auntI think you should leave it why bring up the past. move on dont go back when we are all moving forwad to 2007. Hope this helped.

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A female reader, willywombat United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2006):

willywombat agony auntWhy go backwards? Onwards and upwards and a prosperous 2007 to you!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006):

Thanks everyone....I will go and just have fun...might meet a new guy which sounds like a better plan.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006):

What purpose will it serve you, your ex bf and his new lady...to have you call him and wish him a Happy New Year's?

You sound sensible, in lieu of your comment " I do not think this is a good idea " However, your sister does not. Why is she encouraging this? You know, we get postings into this site all the time from young females who are upset that their guy's ex gf has called him, out of the blue. It's a pretty painful place for them to be in. So why would a person do that? Once a relationship is over..it's done..kaput...move on. To call him could create problems for them, so I feel it's totally disrespectful, not to mention that he will think less of you...possibly thinking you are manipulative...and judging from your posting-you are not this way. Go have fun with your sister and her buddies. And if you think of him--don't go near a phone. Leave them alone. Happy New Year, Sweety and just enjoy.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006):

Your instincts about this not being a good idea sound right on target to me.

He has a new girlfriend and you have to respect that. Besides which, if you were to call he might not like it because his current gf might (might not, though) feel threatened and it could cause unpleasantness.

Then again, he lives in a different city. And you are dating too.

Don't know why your sister thinks you should "just call." I'd be inclined to leave it alone, since he IS your ex. Had he contacted you and indicated an interest in getting back together as bf/gf, that would be different.

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A female reader, Pretty and proud United Kingdom +, writes (30 December 2006):

Pretty and proud agony auntfollow your heart, if you are still friends then go for it but if it was a horrible break up then steep clear i hope this helped

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